How to assert someone who is disrespecting you

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Hi,
I usually let someone know when something is bothering me. However, I sometimes struggle with the other person continuing to mouth off at you and find a reason to try and argue with me. So, how do I set a clear boundary with someone who is trying to be a bully?

I know someone who happens to go to my congregation and this is one of those self righteous and religious believers who acts like they are a true believer. When in reality, they are doing things behind closed doors away from a congregation that seem off.

I had associated with her for over a year. However, 1. She was not that interested 2. She also did not seem to be up front with me about different things. 3. Some of her actions seemed very strange.


I was minding my own business and talking to another person about a situation that I had gone through. She then jumped in and automatically accused me of cursing the group of people who happened to be in situation. She said, "God will curse those who curse his people" after I moved to a different spot.

I texted her later and said that I did not appreciate the way she talked to me and that we no longer maintain contact which included not responding to my text. She did not seem to respect that either by writing back and continuing to want to pick a fight by saying that I did this or that wrong and that I needed to repent. She also accused me of gossiping about her and that she forgave me. I told her she was being a bully to me.

As for the texts, I saved them on my cell phone show to our worship team. However, how do I set boundaries with someone who wants to pick a fight like that?


How do I set boundaries with people like that when you call them out on their actions?

I actually was between the two women yesterday in which the nice lady was in front, and the mean self-absorbed disrepectful one was in back. I then moved a row up and sat next to the nice lady who I was talking to in the first place and just did my best to ignore the other woman.

We both heard mean one make comments about God cursing me for cursing his people. We also passed notes to each other so that she would not try to be hostile to us for talking and ruining her precious phoney moment. We did it in a subtle manner where she could not see what we were doing.

Anyway,

The main problem about this woman is that she is mad because she felt like I was gossiping about her when in reality, I cautiously told her friends at the end of the summer that I did not trust her and that something was off when. I said this when she appeared invite several of us over to her house for a pool party and a cook out over the summer. She then seemed to disappear from congregation for a GOOD two months and just either ignored or lead us around. I kept getting questions from her other friends of whether or not I had heard from her week in and week out. I finally opened my mouth as I was not happy with the way she seemed to be treating others.

Before I even said anything to anyone though, I had gut feelings about her after the first time we hung out one on one when she seemed to badmouth one of her close friends. The way she said it seemed like all drama as if the world was out to get her. I was also more on full alert after working with a co-worker who latched onto you and badmouthed people like that and also treated them poorly.

She also did not go the right way about talking to me either which was pulling me to the side and ask me why I felt that way. Instead, she asked me out of the blue if my other friends were still gossiping about me. I said no that was taken care of a long time ago.

It was, "Yeah, gossip is bad." I took that as a hint right away that she was using a sneaky tactic to call me out rather than on the level of a mature adult.

Yes, I have questioned it before since she seems to show you the true delusions of granduer and references.

E.G She mentioned to me a few times that she posted something on FB and said that our rabbi changed his messages based on what she said.

I was either thinking of bi polar disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder.