Social Skill Success!

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This is for people to feel good about themselves. NO NEGATIVITY ALLOWED PLEASE!

What is a social skill success you've had? Big or small, it doesn't matter.

I'll get the ball rolling: I've mastered the ability to keep my arms and hands down at my sides. Formerlly clasped them in front of me in a nervous manner. Can also give them a natural-looking swing when I walk. Now working on eye-contact.

my social success is allowing myself to be patient and listening to what the person is talking about. i can also make the conversation useful with ideas of my own.

My husband is now able not to monopolize the conversation when talking about something he likes.

Not a success of mine but I had to share this;

There was this really nice, but "fat and weird" girl and there for deemed "socially unacceptable" by everyone on my school. (I made out with her at prom as I was leaving early and found her alone standing out front waiting to be picked up by her parents leaving early too.. I secretly had a crush on her for years but was so busy and tunnelvisioned in trying to fit in myself I think I couldn't risk it or something, how strange and evil that may sound.. anyway also I ended up walking home on my 2 sizes too big rented at the last moment shoes and started bleeding after about 300 feet and it hurt so much even the booze couldn't dampen it but that's another story.) A week orso ago I made a facebook account and had many years old requests. One of them was hers, so I had a look at her page and she lost a lot of weight and is reaaallly pretty now. Lots of pictures of her having fun in clubs and holidays with lots of cool looking people. She's way out of my league now. But I'm really happy for her blossoming from an odd duckling to a beautiful swan and that I can say I at least kissed her once. Sad of course I didn't realize before how stupid my own actions were. Story of my life it seems.

Well, my diagnosis has made me realize my whole life has basically been a social skill success. I taught myself how to gesture starting when I was eight, and today I have very natural gestures indistinguishable from the norm. I am able to decipher unwritten rules in different social settings by observing interactions and noticing patterns among them. I've managed to pretty much master Facebook, a forum that seems to stymie many Aspies; just about every status I post will get 10+ likes, and 20/30+ is not uncommon. I'm great at small talk, and I have a mastery of sarcasm and humor. I can make just about anybody laugh. In the past couple of years, I've made great strides in the "final frontier" of social skills for me, reading non-verbal cues directed at me (as well as sending cues of my own).

at age 51, i learned to make smalltalk.

I was recently told that I gave the best interview for a job position that they had ever seen. I was really surprised since normally I'm a terrible interviewer, it boosted my confidence a ton!

I can understand sarcasm, and tell the difference between a very excited person and a quite annoyed, getting angry person

i had some sucesses last week.
it was the day of the first band practice of the season and i showed up even more early then usual, so i went to the cafetaria for a coffee, where i then joked a little, and ended up having a long conversation with the bar personell; so long in fact that i almost ended up being late for practice.
also, after practice, i managed to keep a conversation with 3 potential new members at the same time (who came around for a tryout), and kept the conversation going untill the building closed; i on my own convinced all three to become members even though they were doubtful at first, but they decided to stay as it was a warm and friendly group outside of practice; score for me!

I'm now able to initiate conversations with people younger than me (18-25 or so) it's not much but it's a start. As well, Mr. Hopelessly Oblivious actually realized a woman (two actually) are flirting with me. I was also recently told how confident I was in a new social situation. I also had a guy at a sporting event call me out as a 'greasy player' recently in front of everyone and did not lose my composure.