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28 Feb 2012, 12:05 pm

one of my cousin started staying at our place during weekends
he is the first cousin who ever came to stay at our place

everything was going fine we used to take him out for dinner, mall, movie etc
his demands kept on increasing eventually he wanted to go out for movie every weekend
which we could ill afford.

suddenly now he as cut off with us and there are no calls, no likes on facebook, he doesnt keep in touch

so whats this phenomenon 8O


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28 Feb 2012, 12:24 pm

If it's that serious, have you talked to the authorities? Asked his family members? It could be anything. Does he have a history of mental illness or depression? I had an uncle who was manic depressive. One day he left his house and everything including his pets. Just his car was gone. We thought he'd been kidnapped or had been in a wreck. Days later a friend of his contacted us. He found him camping inside his car outside Denney's. Apparently he thought we were going to have him institutionalized.


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28 Feb 2012, 12:36 pm

He is alive and doing well. I have seen him updating his facebook status and adding pics there
its just that he as cut off from us and started avoiding us for no valid reason

He does have some psychotic problems many years back he had started sending continous SMS
and later completely stopped

Also couple of years ago he was acting strange on the chatroom I mean he does behave in weird
manner but now he is doing well in career as become a Engineer etc...but still mentally i cant understand him


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28 Feb 2012, 1:26 pm

It sounds like he may have some mental issues going on but it's hard to say. My uncle got worse with his through the years and none of us could get him help. Not sure what else there is you can do. It's up to him whether or not he'll reconnect with you. Maybe write to him or check up once in a while if you're worried. But I don't think there's a whole lot you can do. Sorry to hear that.


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29 Feb 2012, 12:35 am

MissConstrue wrote:
It sounds like he may have some mental issues going on but it's hard to say. My uncle got worse with his through the years and none of us could get him help. Not sure what else there is you can do. It's up to him whether or not he'll reconnect with you. Maybe write to him or check up once in a while if you're worried. But I don't think there's a whole lot you can do. Sorry to hear that.

i called him up but he said he will call up later
i dont want to get into mess with this crazy people as if i already know my entire extended family is psychotic


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17 Sep 2012, 8:43 am

Ok this guy visited my brothers place last weekend they ate out in mall and added photos to facebook etc.

Now he as added photos of Australia and he has written that he became a NRI so he as left for australia.

So not bothered to inform me before leaving

Aspie's have to be careful of relatives they usually take advantage.


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18 Sep 2012, 3:59 pm

namaste wrote:
Aspie's have to be careful of relatives they usually take advantage.


Biggest truth ever spoken. If I'd known this earlier, my life would've amounted to something.

And as to cousins, if I were the one writing the dictionary, I'd define them as: "people who crash at your place, use you and your money and leave all offended when you can't give more".


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18 Sep 2012, 11:32 pm

Moondust wrote:
namaste wrote:
Aspie's have to be careful of relatives they usually take advantage.


Biggest truth ever spoken. If I'd known this earlier, my life would've amounted to something.

And as to cousins, if I were the one writing the dictionary, I'd define them as: "people who crash at your place, use you and your money and leave all offended when you can't give more".

thats the apt dictionary explanation....quite accurate
maybe i should write a separate aspie dictionary where friends, relatives, parents everything as a meaning.


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23 Sep 2012, 7:56 pm

Did your cousin start acting like he was better than everyone else before he left for Australia? If I remember correctly, Namaste, you're in India, right? I've been friends with several people from India who have told me that sometimes before someone leaves for a Western country they stop acting like themselves- they think they are better than their friends and relatives and they stop being interested in Eastern things. It's like a teenager who has just started going to a fancy new school and now thinks he's better than his friends who are still going to less prestigious old school.



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23 Sep 2012, 7:59 pm

namaste wrote:
one of my cousin started staying at our place during weekends
he is the first cousin who ever came to stay at our place

everything was going fine we used to take him out for dinner, mall, movie etc
his demands kept on increasing eventually he wanted to go out for movie every weekend
which we could ill afford.

suddenly now he as cut off with us and there are no calls, no likes on facebook, he doesnt keep in touch

so whats this phenomenon 8O

He may have come to the realization that he's worn out his welcome.

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23 Sep 2012, 9:26 pm

VAGraduateStudent wrote:
Did your cousin start acting like he was better than everyone else before he left for Australia? If I remember correctly, Namaste, you're in India, right? I've been friends with several people from India who have told me that sometimes before someone leaves for a Western country they stop acting like themselves- they think they are better than their friends and relatives and they stop being interested in Eastern things. It's like a teenager who has just started going to a fancy new school and now thinks he's better than his friends who are still going to less prestigious old school.

ya he started acting pricey
infact he is putting up each and every image on facebook
right from the washing machine in his room, to oven, toaster everything to show us how australian life is...


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25 Sep 2012, 1:01 pm

i caught him on facebook and asked him for compensation for staying at my place i told him he should pay up for using my house as a lodge.
He laughed it off. Saying he couldnt contact me because his phone was with his brother.
But earlier whenever he wanted to come here etc he used to message me on facebook, orkut etc....so why did he literally leave a country without informing
he had no answers....
and i forwarded the messages to all my cousins so everybody should know his true colours...


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