Female friends please...

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Well, I'm kind of silent on forums, usually. That sort of makes it hard to meet new people on these and I'm sort of the not so social well off. Maybe worse off then many aspies I know irl or otherwise.

Anyways, I have anxiety problems and I love to talk to friends and when i'm down female friends always make me feel more comfortable when I'm down. So I'm kinda looking for some more friends to talk to. I have a couple online I frequently talk to, if they're even on.

I'm not asking for a gf, but it'd be nice. I'm just asking for someone understanding.

Lately I've been having computer issues and I did a clean install. Our internet is slow dsl, so it's making installs difficult. Anytime I have a computer problem...and i fix these myself, I get agitated and shake and nearly want to cry. I'm completely irrational. Luckily my head says all is well, while my emotions are a wreck. Money has as of late made me anxious, but nowhere near as much. I'm not well fit to work so i'm on ssd.

I guess that last half was probably better put into another forum. I dunno, but my main concern is meeting new friends on here or otherwise and I'm more at peace with women. Guy friends are cool, because we share guy stuff, but when I'm down it just doesn't feel right.

I'll be your friend

Thanks. Good to hear from you.

I can also be your friend, feel free to pm me

Somone didn't look at my profile and thought I was female. To clarify. I am male. This person has some problem she admits with having male friends and stays away from other guys besides her husband, so if anyone, any female at all can talk to me. Please do. Single or no. I'm not looking for gf/bf things. I just find it easier to talk about my feelings with females. It's icky with guys or rather just not so helpful with help coming from other guys. Talking to guys are for guy issues to me. I'll talk to my male friends about those kinds of issues. But If I'm torn apart like I am now about my neighbors, I'd like more people to be around to talk to that are female. I'd feel more comfortable that way. :'(

Not sure how old this topic is (i did look at the date before i posted but now its goooone) - im also male and can relax around female company better - you are not alone!

I have to apologize for that, Darialan. I should have known better than to just assume without looking at your profile. To clarify: it is far too easy for males and females to develop some sort of emotional attachment when discussing things on a private personal level. I have no problem having public friendships with males, but to prohibit mixed communications, I do not talk to males privately. My husband affords me this same respect in regards to females. Again, I apologize, Darialan, for the confusion.

Well I'm another female who will be your online friend if you PM me. I've actually never had a male friend before. I either have no friends or one female friend at a time .

What's funny is a fit into this same type of only being comfortable talking to women instead of guys. I've never had guy friends and all my women friends eventuall stop talking to me, pretty much leaving me friendless. I enjoy doing guy stuff like video games so who knows

I came to the conclusion that its because most males are competitive, something alot of us Aspies dont seem to be, and women are generally quite friendly. Trouble is NT women seem to drift away eventually because they assumed you were interested in them as more than friends, but didnt make a move.
Weird huh

Theres got to be SOME women out there that are happy with an odd little friend that does want to leap into theyre pants?

Agreed, though there are exceptions on both sides. For some reason I don't understand, the socialization process is usually easier with females for me.


How do you notice?

Maybe some women could tell us about their perspective?

I can be friends too!

I am female and I don't mind having male friends who are just friends. I've always gotten along better with males anyway, especially the nerdy ones, since I'm not (and never was) a tomboy.

Well i cant speak for all women, as i only know a few, and not well enough to speak for them.

What seems to be a kind of pattern for me, is that you first meet, ask questions about each other, and because you tend to want to know alot about this woman, you ask about everything. Once you know it all, you then switch to just talking about the things you both know, and then they talk to you less and less until they just stop one day or you never see them again.
It appears that if you appear interested and ask lots of questions, this can be interpreted as an interest in more than just friends. From a social gathering i was at several years ago, new NT's when they meet ask a couple of questions then immediatley locate a single topic and discuss it, as opposed to be interested in each other to the extent of finding out theyre favourite shoes as a child.

Eek rambly post again - sorry!

From a personal pov, i want to know everything about you. Everything. And im mature enough to discuss it without taking the pee. BUT - most NT's appear uncomfortable discussing things they dont enjoy, or dont understand.

i like to have females as friends but they take me the wrong way. i get sick of it. they complain to much and bring up stuff i don't need to hear. it sucks. so i end of feeling like they don't wanna be bothered and it hurts my soul and my self consciousness.

I also prefer female friends..maybe because they seem to be more understanding..and they can keep a conversation going for longer than a guy..so kind of helps a little..also i find girls have enless things to talk about..but with a guy it starts to dry up after a while..so any girls out there want to chat i would love to!