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Hi:
I was recently invited to a friend's birthday party and I said I would go. The host of the party has an autism support group and likes to reach out to new adults on the spectrum. One of those people he wanted to invite was the daughter or his roommate's life coach. Her mom is a friend of mine as well and she had asked me last week if she could give me a ride and I said "Sure."

Yesterday, I was out, I got a call from her as she had gotten the date of the party mixed up. So I had to reassure her that the party is today and not yesterday. So I called her back and so did the party host. Meanwhile, I admit that I saw all these activities and I thought about going to those instead. I even told her that I was not sure if I was going to go. She mildly frustrated with me and said that she wanted me to go because her daughter doesn't have any friends and doesn't know anyone and her friends. I said I would think about it. I got a very annoyed, "Ok." So I did a little more research on these other things and they cost money. So I decided to go with my original plans and I texted her. However, she didn't return it. So I called her today and left a message and I have no answer.

I will take full responsibility for this if I did anything to offend her mom and I never meant to do anything wrong.

yeah, once you agreed to the original invitation, you are obligated. Especially if someone else is giving you a ride.

Is there anything I can do?

If the opportunity comes up, just apologize. Its not a huge mistake. Otherwise, let the matter drop and try to do better going forward.

and, be careful about accepting invitations. The usual etiquette is once you accept, you have to be seriously ill, or have an emergency that does not allow you to attend - in order to not attend...Even if that happens, you need to let people know ASAP that you can't attend after all.