making female friends

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I would like to have more female friends. But how do I get female friends without looking like Im asking them out?

The same way you make male friends? Only difference is that it'd be better to do things with them in a group rather than one-on-one so it doesn't feel like a date (at least initially, once you become better friends then you can do things one on one more).

If you just want friends, then why does it matter if they are female or male?

If I want to make a particular female friend, but I don't think she is interested me, but she thinks I am interested in her (which is usually the case), then I invite her to do things with me with another female friend. Usually it's not dating if there is another person with you.

I try harder to make female friends than male because I'm looking for a girlfriend, but that means that I'm not just looking for a friend. But I've never wanted to have sex with a girl without also wanting to be friends, so it is not a huge disappointment to me if she is not interested in me sexually because I appreciate the friendship. But somehow most girls don't want to be friends with you if you know you are romantically attracted. It is really frustrating because it seems like I have to destroy a lot of friendships if I want to try a more intimate relationship, even though I have no problem with just being friends.

Essentially, the way to have more female friends is to genuinely WANT to be friends with them. That doesn't mean you can't ALSO be attracted to them romantically, but you have to ask yourself: If I knew there was zero chance of her being my girlfriend ever, would I still want to be her friend? If you can honestly answer 'yes', then you're on your way.

Ditto. Although it is a legitimate concern, that you can appear as if you want to date them... does it matter? They might think that at first, but soon enough they'll realize that you're not going that way, and act likewise. And yes, as it was said before going out in groups is definitely the way to go at the beginning; when it's been established that you guys are friends then you can hang out 1 on 1 without issues.

I disagree here. I can't ignore the difference – unless I'm 100% sure she's (exclusively) lesbian.

Trying to make friends with single straight girls is most awkward.

Pretend to be homosexual.

I'm curious whether there's any particular reason you're looking for female friends. If you're straight then you might be interested in more than a friendship at some point - maybe that's part of your plan? If so, there are plenty of women who like the friends-first approach. In either case, you might want to consider finding a free dating site and selecting the "looking for just friends" option.

From my point of view, there are a number of reasons:

1. If you're a lot among girls, some friends of yours are female for statistical reasons.
2. Even if you're not exactly looking for a relationship, you might want to learn about female behavior.
3. Girls typically don't show those annoying habits that some guys do, such as excessive alcohol consumption, aggression, arrogance, acting childish, etc.

4. In order to be successful at dating a female one has to learn how to socially interact with them first.

Fair points. When I was single, I was all over having as many friends who were female as possible. Experience interacting with and learning from women is invaluable. I guess the difference for me was that I always considered the possibility that some of these women may be dateable and that I would attracted to many of them.

I'm a female and I want male friends. My problem is that they keep on trying to ask me out.

See the answers on my thread on that (which I thought at first this thread was replying to) ---->http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt212143.html Strangely this thread is very familiar.

I think this is a good way to view it. Less disappointments for both people down the road.

Because I don't know many women. I would like to know more

LOL this is hilarious.