"Respect your elders","too young/old",&q

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Personally I think Asperger's gives a whole new meaning to the phrase "age is just a number" lol.
Do you agree and understand what I'm getting at?

Like emotional immaturity.

I feel younger than my age peers, and while I personally don't feel any thing wrong with me, when I look around at my surroundings and see all these grown-ups and don't feel like that, I can intellectually see that Im behind.

Like when you say to a little kid "Oh, you're too young for this and that" obviously, they're talking about their maturity level right, not their technical age, but their innocence and lack of feelings of responsibility and terrible executive functioning.

How many times must I tell you?

Not all Aspies are emotionally immature. Many, including yourself may be, but please, stop assuming and claiming that we all are.

Clear enough?

I would say I'm miles more mature than most people my age.

Then why do we have social deficits and executive functioning issues?

yes I relate to the OP......I am so very very immature. I think I'm 10-15 years younger emotionally than I am chronologically.

I feel about 10-15 years younger than my peers. I have no desire to buy a home, get married, have children or advance at my job like it seems I am supposed to. Don't get me wrong, I take care of myself and handle my own business but I have no desire to take on any more stress or work if I don't have to.

you're 27 though?

You sound like a late teenager/ early 20 something, not like 12, you're an adult, id say.

i do get your point though

Executive functioning doesn't impact your emotional maturity.

Same with social defects to a large extent.

I just turned 44 I'm a weird mixture of still being thrilled to be living on my own and experience new things but with grey hair and bifocals.

I just turned 21.

But I feel the same as I did when I was 12, my internal voice stopped changing at that point.

You know, when you put it like that-yeah! My internal voice does seem to be stuck in my early 20s. Not that I mind, keeps me very grateful and easily entertained and I'm able to hold down a job that allows me to support myself so it hasn't harmed me in anyway.

Cute dog by the way!

*Sigh*

Neither social deficits nor executive dysfunction have anything to do with one's emotional maturity. Both of those things are entirely irrelevant to this discussion.

I am very insulted that you would insinuate that experiencing social deficits and executive dysfunction makes me immature in comparison to Neurotypicals of my age.

I have been patient and respectful towards you in relation to this issue in the past, but I will not continue treating you in this way if you insult me.

Curiotical, you are not being insulted.
muslimmetalhead is expressing his opinion and not addressing you directly; you're reading far too much into this and your "How many times must I tell you?" post was extremely rude and condescending, as is your most recent response.

Lighten up a little with the lofty pronouncements, Ok?

When I was a kid, I HATED it when people tried to lump me into the same catagory. As a kid, I hated other kids. I literally hated the word "child" and basically forbade my mother from calling me that in my presence. I preferred "kid" if she absolutely had to use a word like that.

I was much, much more emotionally mature and responsible than other kids my age. I used to be very offended when I wasn't allowed to go places that "children" were banned. I could see why "those people" would be banned, but why should I be?

My mother once actually got us into some apartments that didn't allow kids under 12 when I was maybe 9 or 10. She told them that I wasn't anything like any child that the manager could even imagine. She was right

What you are saying sounds a lot like some kids who dont like being called immature sp they try to act older.
I did that too, but i dont think of myself as understanding, rather i just try

I didn't just "try to act older", I really did act older. I was very overprotected in some ways, and didn't spend much time at all with other kids but I was also given very much responsibility and a lot was expected of me in other ways. I really was rarely called immature. I preferred the company of adults over children, but I'm sure that's because that was the company that I usually had. I was talked to like I was an adult, about most things, and I resented anyone who didn't treat me as somewhat of an equal. I felt that I was an equal, I simply hadn't been alive as long, nor learned as much as them.