Do you feel like nobody else understands you?

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That's how I feel and I am curious whether I'm the only person who feels this way.

My name is Leigh and I am a huge Mets fan. I also love comics, especially Batman. I work at Brooklyn Film Network / Flatbush Pictures making documentary films. I am on the Asperger's spectrum.

One of the things I find most frustrating is that I call friends up and they don't call me back. Since I don't do very well meeting new people, it makes having a social life challenging.

How do you get people to call you back?

How do you meet new people when you feel uncomfortable with strangers?

And what are your thoughts on the most recent Batman movie?
I also enjoy the mystery story and seeing other places around the world.

<--- World's most forgotten boy. Welcome to the club. Hope you enjoy the ride.

Yes, I feel this way. Many people on this site probably feel this way. I think very logically, and I have noticed that other people seem to approach the world more emotionally than logically, and don't understand my perspective because they assume everyone has the same approach or can't imagine what it's like to have another approach. I am precise and subtle in my perspectives; many people lack the patience or brain processing power or interest or something to understand ideas that are too detailed. I also tend to try to say precisely what I mean, but the effort is often wasted, as people often think they can assume all sorts of things about my state of mind, and infer other things that I have not said, sometimes to the point of not really hearing what I actually said. In the confusion of untangling what they thought I meant, I give up or run out of energy to explain what I actually meant, or they are too overwhelmed with having their assumptions corrected to process the original message. This is why I avoid talking to most people.


Michael Keaton is the one true Batman. I haven't watched any Batman movies after his movies. Too many different Batmans. What is the mystery story?

Yes. Once, I almost got to the point where I felt so misunderstood, I thought I must not be human. Some people go all the way off that edge, but I don't think it's necessarily only an Asperger's thing.

I think people do understand me...they just don't like me

this guy sums me up.

I tried to explain my situation to a friend who's 27
All she said was "Oh that's just 'growing up'"

Well f**k you too.

I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of people in general feel this way. I'm sure it's standard for people on the autism spectrum. I certainly feel that way myself.

Social bonding is hard. People will stand you up, blow you off, ignore you, and so on. That's part of the "game." I don't know how to reliably establish closer connections. Putting yourself into an environment such as a college dormitory, where you experience regular unplanned interactions with a stable group of individuals, may help. Meetup groups are another strategy.

The Batman movie had excellent production values and was a pleasure to watch. My main annoyance is that Bane didn't feel credible as a villain.

There are some people that understands me, but they aren't here to make friends with me. The exchange of information was invaluable. I have come to realise how wrong my body language was all these years. I would be saying something, but they will be reading something else combining my body language with my tone of voice and what actually comes out.

ha! First person I get to know that actually likes Michael Keaton too as the Batman character. Jack Nicholson as the Joker.. awesome. Still the best movie for me, because I felt like I could identify with his quirky/mysterious identity.

The new Batman with Christian Bale is good, the dark and seriousness of the movie is great. But I miss the character that Michael Keaton portrayed.

I've had it where (probably well-meaning) people say "that's normal, everyone feels that way sometimes."

Now I don't disagree that they probably do feel that way sometimes, but do they feel like a fish-out-of-water all the time, like I do? They don't appear to.

OH YEAH. I definitely DO feel like this. Because there really is not anybody like me. Anywhere near me.

I feel people understand me to a degree once I get to know them. I only have mild AS, so there are a lot of things I cognitively have in common with NTs (despite all the things that are poorly understood). I know that may sound odd but it is not impossible for someone on the mild end of the spectrum to be able to relate to NTs to a certain degree.

I feel like strangers misunderstand me the most. I know people would often argue that it doesn't matter what strangers think of you because you don't know them, but when you're out in public places with nearly everyone that passes you giving you funny looks and teenagers delibrately staring at you as though they're mocking you, and snotty old women making you feel like a kid by thinking they can belittle you, and people turning round to stare at you each time you talk to your friends or on the phone as if there is some oddity in the way you speak (although I know I don't speak any different to anybody else). Having to endure all that is still very intimidating and makes you just wish people would leave you alone, especially going around not knowing what there is to misunderstand about you because you act like an NT and you dress presentably and don't do odd movements or walk in an unusual way or anything even close to that. And, like I said, I only have mild AS, so it is not completely hard for me to fake NT in my social and physical appearance, so I don't know what everyone's problem is.

You are not the first one, I prefer Michael Keaton´s Batman over the others´, even over Bale´s Batman, because Bale is not as charismatic and as damaged as Keaton´s Batman. Besides, I am a HUGE fan of Tim Burton, and even if I like Christian Bale as Bruce Wayne/Batman, and I like his movies for bringing the realism into the realm of comic book movies, I still prefer and I always WILL prefer Keaton.

Oh, very much so in my case. I've said it many times across this board, no need to repeat myself.

To some extent, yes.
When I started going to Autscape, I thought everyone over there would be like me and would understand me. I thought all Autistics are very like-minded. Pretty soon, I discovered Autistics are at least as diverse as the general population.
Yet, some of the Autistics I've met, either in Autscape or in other circumstances, do somewhat remind me of myself and do understand me, at least to some extent.

Yes. The majority seem to care about things I don't, and do things I do not wish to be a part of. The only difference is, I'm the one that is supposedly doing it wrong. Pfft