Last night I got together with a close friend of mine, who is also on the spectrum, by going to a holiday party together. He met four new people who I work with and felt like he really connected with them. He also explained to me that he felt like this was a possible new group that he wanted to hang out with. He said that he felt like they seemed like sincere people who were quite accepting. This was while recently feeling uncomfortable with another singles group that we had both attempted to associate with since one of our other friends who is also on the spectrum. He has no problem connecting with them.
I asked him why he wanted to leave that group and he replied felt like they were too phony and clicky. I asked one girl in the group who we have appeared to get along with. He replied that she seemed to appear to really be reaching out to because she was obligated to because we are Autistic and feels sorry for us. His feeling was that she hangs out with us whether she wants to or not.
I never really ever picked that up though. Instead, I felt like she did seemed a bit flaky while appearing to have problems of her own that she is dealing with internally. From my stand point, she is a sweetie. Yet, I don't think she is phony or dislikes us, but we have been at the bottom of her list before.
As for his comments about this girl, do you think he is too negative or do you think he is picking up something that I am not?
07 Dec 2012, 9:31 pm
