Making friends eludes me

Post Reply New Topic

I have NO idea even remotely close as to what to do. I used to have a couple friends in school and that is gone now. I miss having someone there to talk to and especially one that had similar interests as me, not someone who would judge, or think I was weird, who would talk about me behind my back, who I could tell secrets to, etc. I have a fairly long list it seems and am picky. I want someone close or older to my age (27), who likes my certain interests, Goth, Vampire, Movies, Music yadda yadda. Who is maybe on or off the spectrum. I am FTM, non-transitioning at the time, and wouldn't mind having someone like that too.

Anyone have any advice?

you are among many others in the same or similar situation.

Learn small talk and start to talk to new people. It's hard, I know. Practice will get you better with time. Think about practice as a harmless way to hone your social skills.

Keep it light and just try to find out more about the person. Then, if the opportunity arises, talk about your interests. If the person seems to lose interest, don't push it, just find a way out of the situation or say an excuse to end the conversation. If they are interested in being friends with you then they will want to talk to you again later.

Keep repeating this process with people. It takes time for people to open up and trust you, as well as time for you to trust others. Also, I used to be afraid of silences and talk too much, but that's annoying. Give people enough space so they feel comfortable around you. Don't be afraid of silences - it gives people a chance to think about what they want to say.