Friendships changing after Dx/selfdiagnosis?

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Kinda curious about your situations.

My friends from high school hang out once a year at around this time to go caroling. I feel conflicted because I no longer like the same activities. Also, it's been as if there was this divide between us ever since I disclosed my diagnosis. My friends had pulled me through a lot in high school and I think they no longer want the burden of getting me up to speed with society, even if we haven't talked for months. But I don't have anything else to talk about with them or relate to in their lives. I realise now that they probably were annoyed at me a lot of the times but didn't say anything. I now feel like we were only friends because of their niceness to help people out.

My boyfriend went caroling with me last year and felt really awkward. It made me realise how different my friends are now than before. Now I seek people out who are honest and open to me about their feelings. I still love my old friends, but how do I tell if they're just being polite?

Anyways, just looking to see if anyone has had any similar experiences or has any advice.

I've lost quite a few friends over the years (regardless of my telling them the diagnosis), but figure we've grown apart just because of life more than anything. In either case, I figure if one of us is trying to recapture the friendship and the other doesn't seem to be putting in the effort, perhaps it isn't really worth saving (this works both ways). Don't think you really feel obligated to go carolling if you don't want to, especially if you know things are awkward. If your boyfriend asks, tell him everything you've said here.

Oh yeah,this happens to me all the time. Once you say to your friends (or anywhere else) that you have Asperger´s, they start to dissapear. Only some, the most loyal ones, are staying with me. I value those friends.

Yup, post diagnosis I ended up meeting millions of aspies. So it widened my social circle, but not necessarily in a way that I would call the optimum.