What counts as socializing?

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My ds(13) is involved in Boy Scouts (meets once/week sometimes more if they are camping), church youth group (1.5 hours a few times/month) and is on the school archery team (4 times/week for about an 1.5 hrs/day). He isn't invited to other kids' homes and we usually don't have kids over here. Is this enough? Ds isn't in any social skills groups.

Different people define "friendship" differently. A girl once wrote in her blog something like "A true friend is friend who cheerfully print your assignments out for you when your own printer has run out of ink around 2am." Most people value quality of socialization more than quantity of socialization.

Sounds like enough to me. It would be more than I could handle. It is harder for auties to find people that they can relate to. You can't compensate for this with quantity though.
Spending too much time with people who I am not relating to is extremely unpleasant.

When I was younger, I was very socially immature and my family tried to normalize me. Of course, they never could, and as a result, they could never figure out when I socially matured more until after so many bad things happened, partially as a result of their unnecessary pressures and lack of sophistication for language and more complex situations. My best advice would also be to let a person be themselves (but of course in such a way that it's not intrusive to others.) I think it's okay to try to force your kid to do something they don't like, but don't do it to the point that they can't do stuff that they like too. My parents really hampered my creativity when they overlimited things that I was good at and tried to make me do things or be with people that wouldn't really give me a chance. It doesn't work that way. Friendship goes both ways, and so does trust.