I don't know who to trust anymore.

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I'm having problems with friends. See, last year I wanted to be friends with these 3 girls at school but they just ignored me. When they finally responded to me they said they didn't f***ing like me. Recently I wanted to get together with an old friend, but she started ignoring me too. I asked her why she was ignoring my messages and she blocked me on Facebook. I was devastated both times, but I've gotten over those 3 girls. I don't feel like I can trust anyone anymore. They all seem to turn their backs on me. What should I do? Should I just stay isolated to myself?

Nope, just nix them off the list and keep on trying.

No. You'll make new ones someday.

I've been through many fairweather friendships. These girls are just bored of you because you probably have no use for them. You're gonna encounter these people all your life. Not everyone cares about you, and I learned this the hard way.

I was in an acquaintanceship with a person whom I mistakenly thought was an actual friendship and got ditched. The irony is that this person was in a similar position. Serves 'em right.

I'd be glad not to be friends with anyone who said they didn't "f#cking" like me. There are some people in the world I am too good to be friends with, and there are some people in the world you are too good to be friends with, and you are too good to be friends with them.

I don't know why your old friend blocked you, but I really don't think your problem is one of a matter of you being too trustful.

It's likely a matter of you not picking up on social cues, or giving off the right social cues. What you need to do is be more aware that you have difficulty doing this and make a conscious effort to be more attentive in social situations. It also helps to stay away from the popular "in" crowds and socialize with people who are more secure with themselves and in their interests.

Honestly someone who would say they don't "f#cking" like another person, directly too them has some serious issues and if I were those girls parents I would be mortified such a thing came out of my daughter's mouth.

Don't bother too much with gaining their trust and opening too much at first. Be passive at first and then you see how things are going. If they trust you and show some intrest, open up a bit, if they don't, move on and don't bother. Be more on a "hard to get" side than on "please be my friend, i'll do anything (for you)".

I guess even girls have trouble with getting girls to like them.

That's not really a classy thing to say. Did they really say that? Are you sure you really want them to like you? To some, Facebook is just another F-word.

Yeah, you guys with AS should thank your lucky stars that you don't need to try to make friends with NT girls.

You guys only have to deal with them for dating purposes and you can be friends with most other guys without worrying they want to have sex with you.

Girls...NT anyway, can be absolutely horrible towards other girls. Especially girls with AS. They don't just call you a "fag" and sock you in the jaw like a guy who doesn't like another guy might. They really try to destroy you if you're a girl. But if you're a guy they'll usually just whisper things about you to eachother in passing and generally want nothing to do with you.

But this is really just certain types of girls who are this horrible. I've learned they're easy to avoid unless one ends up as your boss some day. And they are usually those bosses who every hates.

There are plenty of nice NT girls in the world. It's just hard to meet them for friendship purposes if you're a girl with AS.

There were times in my life that I had trust issues. I had a really hard time knowing who to trust, when I was 21. I got passed it, though. I hope that you will be able to get passed your trust issues, and I have faith in you, that you will be able to do so.

Everyone has turned their back on me so you are not alone.

Don't worry about it. It's happened to me heaps of times as well.

It has happened with people I was 100% sure I trusted.

Generally you need something in common to be friends with people. Or you need to have something they want. (Which is unlikely for an aspie but not impossible )

I'm not expert on making friends, but have been a very interested observer in my adult life and try to work out the rules. I don't want to let people into my life, but have seemingly been able to make a friend out of nowhere simply due to common things. ( eg taking my horse out to competitions, riding club etc). It is a distant friendship, not the come over to my house and hang out type of friendship, but its an interest in each other's dealings with their hobby.

I managed to make a few friends, but it takes time (years), because those that you feel comfortable with is not always clear from the start. Sometimes you need to adjust yourself. But as you fall around in life, I guess you will get to know more people and have more chances

Everybody changes over time anyway. Nothing stands still. The same person you think of now is beneath your friendship, might grow in life experience to be a friend later.

Ive been in a situation like this too. Dont worry about people like this. Most of the time, they just have a rod lodged up their butt. Waste no more thoughts on them