My best friend was an Aspie

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I met him in freshman year in high school. We were both teased and lightly bullied for being a bit quirky. At first i avoided him, like i avoided all strangers, then it got competitive. we would argue, fight, and compete over stupid things, which in retrospect was the most "normal" teenage experience i've ever had... it was fun and taught me how to connect with people. After a few months we naturally became friends. we would skip formal gym class together to make up our own games with made up rules (with the ok from a very smart and understanding gym teacher). we spent every recess together chatting about PC's and other things, we learned and studied together, and throughout all of highschool thanks to him, he made me feel very normal and made me feel like i belonged.

The same quirkyness and faux-pas', the same social awkwardness and hardships, the same weird conversations and reactions from NT classmates and the same avoidance and rejection by girls that i experienced, i would see him go through as well. It made me feel like it's alright to be myself.. like I didn't need everyone's acceptance to feel good, but just one good friend's.

We had a great friendship for those 4 years until we graduated high school and both went to different colleges. That's when I found out how hard it was to make genuine friends with NT people. I had a miserable time there and i learned I had aspergers. Meanwhile my best friend from highschool suddenly passed away from an unknown brain aneurysm... at 19. It turned my world upside down. I never really got to thank him for being the best friend I ever had. He was undiagnosed last i spoke to him, but there is no doubt in my mind that he was Aspie. Thanks for being my friend.

My life since then has been quite brutal. I gave up on college and am working construction and building maintenance now. very laborous back breaking work that doesn't pay much, and I live alone and a rather lonely life with no real friends.... i miss my aspie friend.

Is there anyone else out there who has or had a really good Aspie friend?

I'm mourful about your friend's death. It is a beauty history which teach that is necessary to be greatfull about everything in our lives!! !
I'd love to know someone to call my friend too but today is difficult to find someone in a society of stereotypes
( Sorry if my english sounds not very good , I'm just simple learner)

Sorry to hear about your loss
Luckily you had a friend during school days. I was all alone and i remember most of the recess sitting and eating
tiffin alone
You shouldnt have dropped out of college, or even if you did you could have continued studying via distance learning
I am still learning courses via distance learning its safer for Aspie's that way.

I am equally grateful for my friend whom i met a year ago...she left this colony and shifted to a nearby locality
but she taught me wonderful life changing lessons without which i would be always on the edge.

You should not give up keep searching for friends anyway and everyway........
you may meet atleast 1 good person in the 1000 casual acquaintances..........

dont give up

I am sorry for the loss of your friend.

Thanks for the feedback you guys. Altho out of all the acquaintances i make at work (all I do is work, i don't have the guts to go out socially) I haven't made a single friend in over two years... There are no aspies here... just normal people who want normal friends... there's no place for me. It's funny how aspies have so much in common with eachother, but one of those things is avoiding people.... so much so that we won't even meet eachother... we are all so close and yet so far from eachother... makes me sad

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

If you want to make friends with other people on the spectrum, I suggest trying to find out if there are any social/support groups near you. They exist for every age group, not just kids. If an Aspie attends one of these, the likelihood is that he/she wants to make a friend.

If there aren't any accessible groups, Wrong Planet members have met in real life and became friends before. I believe there are also regional meet up sessions too.