Uncomfortable peole

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Do you ever feel like some people make you feel extremely uncomfortable by their mere presence, almost as if they had this energy that got under your skin and crept and crawled in the most uncomfortable manner so much that you just cannot stand to be near them.

A much less abstract way to put what I am trying to say is that there are people that drained you with their mere presence, all the while making you feel specially awkward and inadequate.

I feel it every moment , people hhve problems with you and transmit it to the eviroment with their bodies

yes. with my sister. we live together but i avoid her purposely and i just stay in one spot. i also avoid my family. i cant even talk to them on facebook.

I would really like it if more people replied because I know there is something to this.

Yes, it happens with people that I don't like but can't avoid.

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My mom can cause this sometime but it is not all the time.

First, I am not AS though I feel I can relate so much to this community. Truly. I just wanted to add that YES this happens to me. Sometimes it can be a total stranger in a meaningless situation. A few days ago I went into a store in a mall and tried on a pair of pants. The woman working in the dressing room seemed to respond to my very presence in an odd way. She seemed to take one look at me and have a problem. I told myself that she had a personality issue going on, but it still bothered me. I wondered what she saw in me that triggered that? I hadn't said a word to her. I am too sensitive. I want everyone to like me - even though I know that's bunk. I think there's something wrong with me when someone dislikes me when REALLY that doesn't make sense.

I have a friend who seems to have a "sixth sense" for people and will instantly feel uncomfortable with some people on a first meeting. I'll get to know them and find out weeks or months later that his instincts were right and they are untrustworthy in some way. I am not sure exactly what he is picking up on that I am missing, but then maybe it could backfire sometimes as he can be overly judgemental.

I call them "humans".

Yep. There are people I tolerate (most), people I feel a rapport with (rare), and people who make me uncomfortable (rare).

Those of the last kind usually fit into what has been referred to as a "super-NT", and they are usually female.

There's something called "psychic vampires" that fits the OP's description. I'm not sure if I'd call them super NTs because I feel like super NTs would do it on purpose and my personal jury is still out on whether or not people who do this are always doing this on purpose.

I feel like this when old ladies come up behind me and try to massage my shoulders. Or when men who are attracted to me but I'm not attracted to them try to hug me. Or when people who smell bad stand too close to me. And sometimes when someone is saying something super dumb about something I care about, but I'm not able to correct them because of their social position.

The only thing to do in these situations is to turn things around and make the other person uncomfortable. Like if they make a joke, don't laugh and instead say you don't understand. And if they're too close to you, just stare at them. It's a normal NT reaction to laugh and be "extra normal" to make up for the other person being inappropriate. A lot of people on the spectrum learn to do this too. But all this does is encourage the jerk person to keep being inappropriate.

I think I used to believe that the people who make me uncomfortable just by their presence were doing it on purpose somehow, but I realise now that I'm just not significant enough to them for them to bother being deliberately intimidating. These people, for me, are those who make my heart rate go up when they stand near me, or who I feel apprehensive about approaching (e.g. to ask them a question). They don't actually DO anything at the time that I could describe, but I think it's more about what I think they could do, and what I think they think of me. I guess it feels like they are quietly judging me, in a negative way, and just by existing near me they seem to be giving off signals that I am not welcome in their world, and there's nothing I can do to make them be friendly towards me.

yeah... crazy people

I dont feel that way with all the people but only with certain people
certain people pull you down they make comments full of sarcasm and demeaning
especially my sis in law has this problem and i avoid her to the core
my mom, dad and bro are very negative and demeaning with me
otherwise some of the other people i meet are better and i can spend time with them
if they stop judging me

Yes - my brother's presence just makes me feel so uncomfortable. He is very unpredictable, makes loud unpredictable noises (like yawning really loudly), and he just lingers about in doorways, getting in the way. He is very weird too; he can delibrately annoy other people and thinks it's funny, but if people do something that annoys him, he acts like a bear with a sore head. That kind of personality makes me very uncomfortable, and just being around him makes me feel agitated. I can't keep avoiding him though, because he's my brother. And I don't want to be driven out of my home because of him, I like living at home but I don't like living with him, and he won't move out because he's just lazy and takes my mum for granted that she'd do everything for him. At least I try to be independant.