If an aspie does not like someone, how will they express it?

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If an aspie does not like someone, how will they express it? Are there verbal or non verbal reactions to someone who bothers them?

Aspies, like all humans, are different, so there isn't really a general answer every time. My experience has been that the most common verbal reaction is to say it outright, but that's not always going to be the case.

i, myself ignore them as long as i can, then look out

You're honestly better telling them straight up. A more subtle way would be to distance yourself from them and ignore their attempts at contact, but depending on how arrogant the individual is they may choose not to pick up on it.

I avoid them as best i can. If they ignore this, i show them one of my flash cards saying "I don't socialize" or "I don't talk."

I would be civil, if they're civil to me. I don't do confrontations. But then again, a lot of people are like that.

How do you..an NT..express 'dislike' for someone?

Its funny.. In the last ten years there has been only one person in my real offline life whom I actively dislike. A certain crazy bullying low level superviser in our local district. I dont recall ever "expressing dislike (as such)" for him to him. On rare occasions Ive expressed displeasure with his behavior (but even that was rare-thank god I have had to work with him much in the last couple years).

But apparently what little ive said and done had some kind of effect on him because he apparently THINKS that im persecuitng HIM-as evidenced from things hes said! The poor baby.

I dislike very few people, but those I do, I just don't associate with them. I don't tell them I don't like them, I'm perfectly civil, but I don't make any efforts.

I generally just ignore and strive to improve the relationship.


I enjoy people's company.

Once I told someone: "I don't like you"

That one aside, when I dislike someone I just avoid them, avoid eye contact, and... did I mention I avoid them?

It depends on what I dislike about them. There are some character dislikes I won't be around if I can avoid it, and I'll ignore or walk away, or excuse them (have told students to leave for being very disrespectful). If I otherwise like somebody who is too touchy-feely (dislike that) I simply maintain more distance between us & see if that helps. If I dislike somebody because they are being blunt about being genuinely honest I'm more likely to tolerate that. Sometimes I know immediately I don't like a person and I can act on that. Sometimes it can take me awhile to work out if I dislike them and what I'm going to do about it.

As aspies and auties, we tend to have overlapping traits. I wonder if there's any one single trait we all share? Just curious.

In my case, with great subtlety. /sarcasm

If this was a work colleague or family member or someone I had to see all the time I wouldn't literally ignore the person......but I would avoid them and if I had to see them not talk to them very much, give really short answers, avoid eye contact etc.

I just avoid interacting with those people, and act rude and frustrated when they're intentionally bothering me. If they're bothering me, but are well intentioned, then I'll put up with it for as long as possible, without expressing any dislike.