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25 Jan 2013, 3:27 pm

When someone approaches (as in going towards you head on) do you move backwards in the oppose direction? Is it socially inappropriate / unacceptable to do so?

When you are in a scenario of just a small group of people (2-5) and one approaches you to help you such as answering your question, opening a locked room, would you back away as a response. I think this reaction is due to flight (fight or flight) since people trigger some sort of fear or it could just be a reaction of giving way to the other person, even though there is room in the walkway.



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25 Jan 2013, 3:34 pm

The only time i did this was in a club.

Hot girl walked towards me smiling......I did a comedy back-up thing

It sounds like you are highly anxious to me. Thats probably stating the obvious but thats the bottom line.



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25 Jan 2013, 3:43 pm

I think one step to maintain a sense of personal space is pretty common, but any more than that probably seems weird. How far back do you step? :lol:



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25 Jan 2013, 3:47 pm

I often do this, but I know that I shouldn't.

It's not exactly inappropriate, but it's often interpreted as: "leave me alone".



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25 Jan 2013, 4:02 pm

one step is indeed a common way of expressing that the approaching person is getting too close, after which point the other person is the inappropriate one if he/she keeps closing in. (of course, this doesn't apply if that person is simply 'passing trough')



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25 Jan 2013, 4:09 pm

raptor16 wrote:
When someone approaches (as in going towards you head on) do you move backwards in the oppose direction? Is it socially inappropriate / unacceptable to do so?

When you are in a scenario of just a small group of people (2-5) and one approaches you to help you such as answering your question, opening a locked room, would you back away as a response. I think this reaction is due to flight (fight or flight) since people trigger some sort of fear or it could just be a reaction of giving way to the other person, even though there is room in the walkway.

According to society, you would be an extremely arrogant cock who deserves to be sliced in half.

According to me, you might just be a bit insecure and anxious but good-willed person.



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25 Jan 2013, 4:53 pm

psychegots wrote:
I think one step to maintain a sense of personal space is pretty common, but any more than that probably seems weird. How far back do you step? :lol:


I usually step back us much as I can until I hit something solid like a wall or tree. If the person is beginning at rest ( standing still) and walks towards me, then the same number of steps they take. If there's no wall, probably until I'm comfortable, at least 2 meters away.



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25 Jan 2013, 4:56 pm

Uprising wrote:
raptor16 wrote:
When someone approaches (as in going towards you head on) do you move backwards in the oppose direction? Is it socially inappropriate / unacceptable to do so?

When you are in a scenario of just a small group of people (2-5) and one approaches you to help you such as answering your question, opening a locked room, would you back away as a response. I think this reaction is due to flight (fight or flight) since people trigger some sort of fear or it could just be a reaction of giving way to the other person, even though there is room in the walkway.

According to society, you would be an extremely arrogant cock who deserves to be sliced in half.

According to me, you might just be a bit insecure and anxious but good-willed person.


Why would this behavior be considered arrogant or cocky?



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25 Jan 2013, 5:08 pm

raptor16 wrote:
Uprising wrote:
raptor16 wrote:
When someone approaches (as in going towards you head on) do you move backwards in the oppose direction? Is it socially inappropriate / unacceptable to do so?

When you are in a scenario of just a small group of people (2-5) and one approaches you to help you such as answering your question, opening a locked room, would you back away as a response. I think this reaction is due to flight (fight or flight) since people trigger some sort of fear or it could just be a reaction of giving way to the other person, even though there is room in the walkway.

According to society, you would be an extremely arrogant cock who deserves to be sliced in half.

According to me, you might just be a bit insecure and anxious but good-willed person.


Why would this behavior be considered arrogant or cocky?

Feeling too good to get closer to other people? Many people might interpret it that way, especially when you're a guy, they will think you would feel better than the rest.



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26 Jan 2013, 3:49 pm

I would probably just say you were insecure. But if I were the one going towards you I'd be off-put by it and would probably feel rejected - I doubt I'd try to interact with you again and may consider you stand-offish. So it's not really inappropriate but it probably has adverse effects.