Some articles about bullying (Very depressing but very true)

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Ask Men: The Status of the Bully

Essential Kids: Are you raising a bully?

ABC News: Excessive praise "risks turning kids into bullies"

UCLA Today: Psychologist's studies make sense of bullying

IntelliHealth: Study finds kids who bully have high self-esteem

The Corsair: UCLA professor addresses issues behind bullying

Parenting Science: Pure bullies: Cool, confident and socially adept

Discovery News: Why do people bully?

Time: Why kids bully: Because they're popular

I always heard that bullies were also bullied themselves.

Well, it seems to me they are getting onto something that is not always recognized - these bullys today are not the other-side-of-the-tracks rough kids. They are sociopaths who are often popular, good-looking, and well off. I was spat upon by them, called all sorts of horrible names, listened to them talk to me in a scatological manner, had a jar of urine thrown on me, threatened with knives, etc. etc. All in the upper-middle-class town I grew up in, where everything is supposed to be perfect. Damn them all. G

I've been thrown off my bike which was then smashed on the sidewalk.
I've had my boots taken from me when I was walking home in the snow. All they did was throw it across the street; they had no use for it after all.
I've had a push-in burglary when I used to live in a crack motel in NYC.
I've had a car go out of its way to splash water on me when it was raining.
I've been made fun of so many times I lost count.

I wonder if the parental raise has actually got as much to do with it as they've always claimed it did and that most of the times people are just vain bullies because they were born as vain bullies and not because they're raised "inproperly".

I think heredity has always been an often ignored and overlooked cause of extreme bullying behaviour in an individual unlike what the "experts" claim.

Some people have always got overblown ego's dispite of how bad they were treated or how much they were hated through-out their whole lives.

Most bullying in my opinion is caused by the narcissistic, sociopathic and/or psychopathic traits in the bully which are usually caused by genetics.

One of the scariest things I have read online is you can be raising a bully and you wouldn't even know it. That means your own kid could be a bully at school and you wouldn't even guess because no one ever told you and you can't expect a parent to watch their child at school just to make sure they don't pick on any student there. I already knew that. Not rocket science to figure that one out.

I would be very disappointed and upset if I found out my son was picking on a student at school, especially if the student had learning problems or a speech disorder or had autism or who appears "slow." I would probably scream at him about it and ground him for a while because it would be a sensitive spot for me. I would feel he hates my kind, even me as a parent.

I believe it happens, but that usually isn't the case. My friends are elementary and junior high teachers and one substitute, and the stories they come back to me with usually involve a nasty, cocky, disruptive kid who makes everyone laugh and will single out one other student, and a parent that will defend said student no matter what, even insisting their kid was the victim. A few of these bad kids are famous throughout the entire district as hell raisers, and it just so happens I worked with the parents of one of the victims, who switched their kid to a different school, because the parent of the bully refused to admit their kid was doing anything. I think most cases where the parent "had no idea" they were really just sticking their head in the sand.

Nothing new here. I'm glad people are finally starting to see the realities of what the bullies are like though.


League Girl: That's true. Parents do not really know their children. Or more to the point: that side of them.

This is interesting.

My little brother has a physical disability, which means that he has the use of only one arm. As a child there was this one kid who would call him a ret*d. My brother wasn't upset by it (he's got great self-esteem), but my mother was and approached the child's mother in an attempt to sort out the problem. The first thing this mother said to mine was, "Oh, hey you're the mum of that ret*d kid." A perfect example of how children are victims of their parents ignorance (as it was in this case), or discrimination, or anger.