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I dont have friends
Also i am quite selective about making friends
I cant just hang around with anybody and later on
deal with problems

I am unable to make friends in my office
and other then that i dont have social outings

Recently i joined meetup groups online
they are having meetups
there is one to the museum to see mummy

has anyone got sucess with meetup groups???
or bad experiences only

I joined Meetup a few months ago. My ability to go to them is limited since a lot are nights/weekends and I work. But I do go to one every week on my day off. We walk a few miles and go out to eat. I haven't made any close friends there, but it's a good way to keep amongst people and not feel lonely.

There are so many meetup groups, you ought to be able to find some that are focused on your interests, which makes it more likely you will find a closer friendship there. Unfortunately it's harder to pinpoint a potential close friend to hang with unless you're willing to hang with a bunch of people first.

I guess a lot of aspies join Meetup?

Whats Meetup ?

suddenly there is a lot of meetups around here this weekend
and i am getting invites for those on mail
but they are not suiting my interest
there is some dinner thing, movie and party thing with booze
i will only attend the museum meetup
im sure though i wont make any friends there
infact i get snubbed always

I've only been on meetup.com for a while (few months). The only group that matches my (obsessive) interest is the movie club. I go so often that I have one of those rare limited edition type member club cards. What I found is that this particular group has got a different vibe as the members changes. The first time I went, it had different set of members, which I enjoyed so I disclosed my behavioural traits to them. Then I thought all is well, but the sets of people changes. Then the vibe changes, to the point that I think I want to quit the whole thing before I say something rude to another person, or the amount of BS that I have to eat up. But last night, I went with the group, to find the original set of people I came to know. The one person rescued me socially, which I am thankful for, while talking to a foreigner from Britain. But as things usually work out, this set of people is dissolving because most of them are moving back to province they originally came from.

my 2c

i am getting all messages from men in my inbox
via these meetup groups

I dont like that...im already married
All i need is a female friend or friends to share common interest, talk,
understand

i dont need these men ...im getting wrong vibes
i will probably delete the meetup pages

perhaps in your profile you state that you are married and you would like to make new friends, friends that your husband would approve of?

I meant, bring your husband in the picture and you are happily married. I guess somebody else could come up with something better.

The first time I went, I was standing like a statue and didn't know what to do with my hands/body language. Anxiety built up. I didn't know who the people were. I had a current picture as my avatar so that they could at least recognise me. One person came to fetch me. He was a very well spoken outgoing type. He claims that he can talk his way in and out of everything. So this made it easier to introduce me to the group.

It helped that after the cinema there was a social meeting. It forced me to meet them and I was as usual just an observer, but they eventually asked about me, to which I think I disclosed perhaps too quickly. I saw the guy that came to fetch me, appear a bit disappointed. I guess he thought it would be better if I do not tell the women about it.

so yes, it was difficult at the beginning, but later I was slowly starting to enjoy myself. It became easier as I went to the next meeting. I do have trouble figuring out when people are being serious or when they are making stuff up. I found that some would create imaginary jobs, etc...

I've seen this before, posted somewhere on WP

There are no strangers here, only friends that have not yet met.
--William Butler Yeats