Overanalyzing?

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How do I stop this? I over analyze social situations to the point where I am convinced a person hates me. It always ends up being just a minor misunderstanding.

The best way in my experience was to avoid speaking out the negative thoughts in my mind and just observe everything including my own thoughts instead. Helped bring peace to myself. It appears that you have learned a valuable lesson in overanalyzing as it will depress people including the one that does it.
The mind and your ego can be a very dangerous foe for yourself.

I tend to imagine, visualise and sometimes even practice through talking to an imaginary audience when I'm nervous about some social thing that I need to worry about. Or about random philosophical, psychological or scientific stuff while I'm doing nothing else and my imagination is stuck on logical paths. In actual socialisation though, I more or less just do what I feel like doing. Most people seem to be okay enough with it for the most part since I'm more inoffensively eccentric than anything. I think. I can't really tell but I don't seem to get called out on my behaviour much.

I'd recommend simply following your feelings rather than trying to think about this kind of thing. Socialisation is more emotion than anything anyway and quite frankly it's not worth worrying about whether people hate you. Someone will always like you. There's fans of serial killers and initiators of genocide, after all. Not to compare you to them, but I'm sure you get my point.

You think everyone hates you because you hate yourself.

i do it too. is this a typical aspie trait?