Years in therapy and still self doubting

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Today I posed a question in a group setting to the therapist. It was something like "do I do or say anything a little strange from time to time?" Not sure if she took the question personally or if she really realized that I was really just asking about me. Anyways, the real point was this. I act more confident and feel more confident than I used to be, but the problem is that there's this self doubt that still hangs on. I fear it always will and it will always get in my way. I see it from time to time. Reactions to something I do or say. One could say that I read to much into things, but it's hard not to read into ones that are a little more obvious. Hand on forehead gesture for example and that coming from someone that seems to respect me most days. A response that may seem kind of innocuous to others. Point is that everyone has shown maybe some small disapproval from time to time. Maybe I take it WAY too seriously. After all I occasionally question (usually internally) someone's actions or words. Watching others interact. People who are best friends with each other(and other people in some kind of relationship) sometimes show disapproval in in sometimes more subtle ways on occasion. So why can't I get it through my fat head that there's nothing wrong with me. How do I fight this? It seems like I can't because after so many years I still worry about this.

*can't seem to put in an edit to the first post. Where's the edit button people?*

Ok, I did a little more thinking and I started regretting tasking the question in the first place. I mean I regret bringing it up to the therapist. I think I was asking something in a way that bothered me more than it would help me. I think it was best off probably not asking that question and more moving in the direction I was already going. I'm better than I was years ago, but still not where I wanted to be and I felt like I was taking too long getting there. I still doubt myself with others. To put it another way I think I started asking this question (in my own mind first) and by doing so I ended up obsessing over it, putting myself in more pain.