Is this a form of drawing attention?

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I have a quick question about something:

Let's say that I am having a great conversation with someone who I will call Allen. He and I are talking and having a nice conversation. We are talking about what we are good at and where we want to go in life. I even talk about what I over came in terms of my AS.

Then a third person who I will call Mitchell jumps in unannounced and starts talking about how he worked hard at one area in college and kept failing at job interviews due to his level of Asperger's Syndrome. So they talk about walking into another place and asking to work there and asking about not being paid. Then they go on and talk about how they used to be good with technical reading and then it got harder the older they got. Finally they talk about their own writing style and the types of themes that they use.

I ask them if them if they want to look at getting their work published. They say no.

So I decide tell Mitchell that he seems to be good at it.

Then they respond that they are not sure if I really understand what I am reading due to certain vocabulary words.

What do you call this? Also how do you respond to this type of behavior? I know they are not doing it on purpose to hurt me but it stills would hurt in a way.

It seems to me that Mitchell jumped into your conversation with an acquaintance quite rudely and made the conversation all about himself. I'm probably reading the topic of this thread the wrong way.

You're going to have to be more clear, because I felt like I was reading an ADOS theory of mind test. Apologies.

I just don't understand what you're asking.

Mitchell basically jumped into the conversation and started talking about himself= Check

Mitchell started talking about his writing=Check

I asked him if he ever considered looking at working on getting some of his work published and he said no.=Check

I mentioned he seemed to enjoy it and seemed good at it=Check

He told me that he is not sure that I understands what he is writing in terms of vocabulary words=Check

So anyway, is this trying to draw attention to oneself.

As for his work, yes I have read it and found that Mitch's work is brilliant with lots of new vocab that I am constantly enjoying to look up.

I dont think this person was aware he was being rude and being that he has ASD himself, he may not have realized he was coming off egocentric.. So, to answer your question, no. He wasnt trying to draw attention to himself. He was trying to join in on a conversation without the appropriate tools. As far as his vocab comment, he pointed out an observation. You admitted that you're often having to use a dictionary when reading his work. Without social etiquette, he failed once again. I say, give him a break.

I did have a talk with him about what had happened and he so we are cool.