How good are you in teamwork and leadership skills?

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Throughout my life I had a miserable time trying to be a leader that people I should be. My kind of leadership is more of a dictatorship. Either that, or I would be too lenient so that I could avoid an emotional explosion.

Plus, when I had to work in a team, like in a sport or a discussion, I would usually sit aside and not contribute. Part of it is because I hate it when someone argues against my answers (I would never have done well in debates). Another reason is because one of the biggest social weaknesses I have is talking to people in a group. Every time I try, I always feel left out.

There were many times where I had to work in groups and a few times where I had to be a leader, and frankly, I didn't feel comfortable during those times.

Enough about that though. What about you? Are you able to work or socialize in a group or be a leader without intimidating people? What are your thoughts?

Hmmm.. well people tend to talk over me and I let them because
I prefer not to compete. I blush REALLY easy and go blank when
put on the spot. With me it depends on the people and the situation.
I still can't look people in the eye. I have been "constructively criticized"
about that my whole life. Very rarely do I meet peoples gaze, and if by
some chance it does happen it is very very awkward, even if I know
someone really well. Does anyone ever get that rapid blinking thing
from yourself, or other people when you meet their eyes unexpectedly?
I totally let other people lead whenever possible. I have always been a
follower.

I'm always the defacto leader in almost every group I'm in. I usually have no problems with group work as well

Teamwork is not for me. I have a more 'leadership' tendency; but not strong enough that I'd succeed well long-term in a corporate environment, unless I had a sympathetic and active manager above me. I think really I'm more of an educator.

I'm a follower not a leader. I just go along what others are doing and have others tell me what to do.

That's odd:

I've found from my work experience that I can be a
satisfactory team player on the one hand and be able
to present a decent lecture/problem-solving session on
the other. Hmmm....

Pure crap, but for some bizarre reason people look up to me anyway so I do OK. You want the easy trick to getting by in a team or leadership role? Just ask questions. Not big life-changing, thought-provoking questions, just detail gathering questions. You have to be careful not to ask questions that would be perceived as stupid (what's a web site? It's a sign that your decrepit self isn't fit to judge most people in this modern age, your honor) but you want to ask questions that you feel fairly confident that someone can immediately address. Every time I pull this trick it gets people nodding and involved, which makes you look like you are taking charge, when you are really just making everyone else do the hard work.

I don't think I have the confidence or understanding of other people to have leadership skills, and I find it difficult working with others, so teamwork definitely isn't one of my strengths.

Im not a fan of teamwork.
A few years back I was in a group with a bunch of slackers, they just left me to do all the work but I figured out how to change that. What you do is let them see that you are doing absolutely nothing, after a while they were coming up and asking what they should be doing but I didnt give much of an answer. A week later and they were all working away on their share of the project!

I like it when a group just divides up a project for college and lets everybody just get on with it. Whenever Im the leader I just say to folk what they could be doing and leave it at that. Guess Im not a team player.

I love to lead.

For those of us who like to lead, how do you lead? I am always the first one to respond, am never afraid to dissent, I let my group do their own thing, but in the end, what I say goes. Anyone else?

I can't do it. Back in school one of two things happened--- i either just follow and not do much of anything, or someone else technically leads and I do the work. It doesn't work out with me--- I'd rather do things on my own completely and get the credit for that. Or i'll just follow and hang in the back.

I actually hate when we do group projects at school. The main reason why I hate them is because I always get stuck with those people that are too quiet to even input anything into the project, too stupid/ditzy to have no idea what we are doing and/or kids who just go off and do the project by themselves or socialize with their friends.

Yeah, I'm an all-or-nothing type of person, not because I like being this way, but because I just am this way. Either the brakes are on full-strength, or there are no brakes whatsoever.

I'm neither a team-player nor a leader.
Can't stand to initiate (and try to enlist cohorts to join me) nor can I go along with following someone else's lead-despised being required to play along with these setups back in school. Your description of what these situations are like is very much how it was for me.

Same here. Fortunately, I'm a stay-at-home agoraphobic (well, that part's not-so-fortunate) & don't have to play or work with anyone else, usually.
I'm not "oriented" towards other people (in terms of shared activities), I'm only interested in doing "my own thing" & wish to be left alone. Unwilling & unable to "convert" or convince other people, nor am I in the market for being converted or coerced by them.

I love to lead, but I am picky about big and sometimes small details that I consider to be important from a rational, perhaps logical, point of view rather than from the standpoint of pure self-interest (although, I do have some desire for personal gain, like anyone does). This point of view does not eliminate preservation of one's power as someone in a leadership position an important detail or even make it always secondary--I do think that in some cases preservation of one's power is necessary. For example, when there are threats to it, one should probably preserve his leadership position unless he feels someone else would be more effective in it, or else face not being able to accomplish goals.

It's easy to get the crowd on your side when you use a lot of carefully crafted emotion behind your responses to something, and that is all too easy for NTs.

Things for me usually go sort of odd in a group. The very dominantly outgoing person takes an official-type leader role and I'll joke about everything that they say while suggesting better things and sort of steer the group to something far more logical and creative. People will often agree with me because I'm not really trying to lead, but at the same time not just being bossed around.

To be honest I never understood the point of being put into groups for school-work etc., as it is inefficient and obsolete.