do you hate people you don't know?

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Sometimes I feel almost normal, but then I remember things that haunt me. One is how I sometimes feel intense dislike for people I barely know, or don't know at all. Like this one girl in college who was nice to me, but I would always glare at her and secretly hated her, and I don't even remember why. Maybe I was jealous of her, or maybe I thought she was patronizing towards me or something. Or another time I really hated JK Rowling, even though I haven't read any of her books, I was just so sick of hearing about her that I would feel angry whenever she was discussed on TV or in articles. I also hate people who have jobs I would like for myself, which I guess is jealousy, but it feels more like just hatred, and I feel like I'm a horrible person.

I understand what your saying. I really cannot hate anyone who is nice to me however because that's not very often and I'll take any kindness I can get(if the person is being phony nice, then that's a whole different issue however because who doesn't hate phonies). Nevertheless, I have hated others I haven't known. I hate loud mouthed, obnoxious people in public and I don't know them. I hate people if they annoy me, and I might not know them personality. I also sometimes hate people because of the way they live or what they do to be honest. I know I shouldn't because it's not my business. However, I cannot help how I feel. I keep feelings like these inside and as long as I do that, there wont be any problems.

i think i know what you're talking about. i struggle with it too. people are always accusing me of frowning at them, etc.--a lot of times i'm not even aware of it. when i'm in social settings with lots of people, most assume i don't like them. sometimes i think it's just a safety mechanism--a way of keeping people at a safe distance. at other times, it may be an expression of genuine dislike.

and in fact, when i am in large group settings, i am pretty unhappy. everything looks like a "clique" to me---whether it really is one or not. at least, this is true in large groups of people off-the-spectrum. i feel clumsy, most of the conversation makes little sense to me. small talk is something i can't do, and at times even agitates me. social politics---the "who-can-be-the-most-charming"--that only wears me out. i start feeling resentful. i rarely (if ever) go to NT gatherings any more.

i do live in a very gentle town, though. maybe that sounds kind of cheesy, but it's true. people smile (genuinely) and wave quite a bit. even though i'm still slow to socialize here, this seems to have been helpful. i find myself frowning a lot less. i don't have a sense of "social politics" here.

I hate it when random people I don't know say hi to me. I give them a slightly confused look that says "who are you?"

I get extremely jealous of people I barely know. If they're charismatic and trendy and good looking, everything I'd like to be, I start to resent them. It also makes me feel like a horrible person...

I feel same way. I know someone who is a surgeon. She has no learning disability and no autism. So life for her is simple. She's 31 just like I am. Her dad is also a medical doctor as well. So I just believe that people who are medical doctors have the best lives because they have successful careers. They don't have to worry about money at all because they are making well over 100K a year. Plus they are intelligent to be medical doctors. I do know the woman who is a surgeon. I have known her a long time. But basically I believe ALL medical doctors are happy because of their intelligence. In fact I think anyone without learning disability or autism are way happier.

I'm no Freud, but it sounds like some jealously that's connected to something in your unconscious mind.

It isn't in my nature to feel that way, especially with someone I don't know.

I am not one to show hatred for people. Of course I can disapprove of some things people do, but I could never hate anyone.

I'm the same way. I sometimes feel contempt for random people based on how they look or how they talk. I also feel strong dislike for overly happy/gregarious people. When I hear people laughing like hyenas I secretly shoot them a dirty look. I generally hide these feelings pretty well though.

Wow, nothing like any of the above.

Sometimes I do take an instant dislike to a stranger for some reason I can't immediately put a finger on, though - something "sends up a red flag", and it may take me a few days or weeks before I realize that that person reminds me of someone, or put an emphasis on saying or doing something that didn't seem right to me. I suppose that's normal for anyone, though.

Me, I actually don't 'hate' people. Especially not for no reason. The best I can muster is a dislike and wariness, but I don't waste a lot of energy on that thing we call hate. I was exposed to way too much of it as a child and the world needs less of it.

I wouldn't use the word "hate" but it's undeniably true that I only like the people I already know. I'm extremely sceptical towards new people and I usually don't look at them or interact with them until I get comfortable enough around them, which usually takes quite a while (from what I've noticed, the time it takes me to get used to people and feel comfortable in their presence > time it takes most people to form a negative opinion about me )

Aint that the truth! Long before I'm comfortable enough to be openly friendly with people they've since decided i'm too anti-social and unfriendly.

I know what you mean. I judge/read people wrongly which causes me to think that 50% of people i haven't met hate me when i usually find out they don't. People think I'm intimidating and mean, even though im the softest person in the world lol

No because I don't know them but I have hated the things they do like smoking when pregnant or drinking or doing drugs. I hate them for that. I hate swearers and jerks and bullies. If I see someone I don't know I am not going to automatically hate them because I don't know them unless they do something bad to me then I go "I hate that guy." I'm the same way online when I see jerks. I hate them.

Now I hate when I see people with babies or pregnant women because I lost mine and they got to keep their baby and have it. Sometimes I just want to kidnap a baby and bring it home with me and love it like a mother but I might get thrown in prison for that and who knows how long the sentance will be and I don't have a crib or stroller or other baby stuff except toys and I have forumla I got in the mail for free. I sure don't want to throw my life behind bars for doing something stupid because that was how much I wanted a baby. I'd be lucky if the mother had a heart for me and felt sorry for me so she decided to not press any charges and she just wanted to drop it. Some people have a heart for kidnappers and hope it was someone lonely who took their child and is treating them like it's their own kid and hope he or she will return their child.

I'm the same. Whenever I get on a bus, I feel bad for the bus driver because all he/she has to do is drive this big vehicle around the city all day and only gets paid $29k a year for it. I also feel like people hate me or think I'm awkward (even though it usually turns out that they are more open-minded than I think they are. Whenver wears sunglasses and they look at me, I always feel like they're angry at me. Probably because the way the glasses are shaped or the fact that you can't see their eyes that well.