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Are you isolated as a result of commission or omission?
Commission 15%  15%  [ 2 ]
Omission 77%  77%  [ 10 ]
Choice. I hate people! 8%  8%  [ 1 ]
Total votes : 13

Tyri0n
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14 Mar 2013, 11:40 pm

Having spent several months in an aspie social skills group without much in the way of correction of my behavior, I'm starting to think that I am often isolated by omission rather than commission.

I think commission is when you turn people off via weird behavior or saying offensive or inappropriate things. Omission is when you engage in outright avoidant behavior, or when you wall yourself off from people and fail to take the steps necessary to develop connections with others. I think I tend to become an emotionless zombie when I am anxious or face sensory overload--also tend to develop anxious or standoffish body language--and I have trouble talking about even harmless personal information. Nonsexual relationships, as a result, never even have the chance to develop at all.

I feel that, while I may have both, particularly the prosody issue at times, my biggest social weakness is a series of omissions.



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14 Mar 2013, 11:59 pm

mine is omission mostly in the form of not talking much, so folks feel i'm not friendly and that they don't know me. occasionally, i'll say something tactless, but mostly it's the quietness that limits my number of friends.



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15 Mar 2013, 1:18 pm

First and second options



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15 Mar 2013, 7:06 pm

Omission by choice, but I couldn't do it even if I wanted to.


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15 Mar 2013, 7:22 pm

for the first 4 decades of my life, options 1 and 2- for the last decade of my life, add option 3. whatever it is that enables one to get on well with one's fellows, i have always lacked.



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16 Mar 2013, 2:16 am

Omission for sure about 90% of the time. For me, thats part of the deficit, the social part doesnt just naturally come. I dont try to avoid in avoidant behavior, I just do. I just dont interact because I dont know what to do. Sometimes commission occurs when I am in more comfortable settings, I can annoy those who dont know me all that well although its less common. Mostly my constant avoidant behavior drives people off.