Have I lost my mind?

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Our neighbor who is older asks my mother for a ride to the doctor. This is 50 mile round trip.

I am currently living with my mother. I offered to take the neighbor to the doctor. My mother She is 82 years old. Still a functioning person but it would be a lot more convenient for me to take her.

I have not met the neighbor but am happy to give her a ride.

My mother asked this woman if it would be ok if I took her and that when I dropped her off I would need to run an errand. She was hesitant and began asking questions such as whether I would wait for her. Since she has never met me, I can see why there might be some discomfort with having me take her. However, this woman is asking for a 50 mile round trip ride and now dictating terms.

My mother is a goodie goodie and likes to do things for people. I told her that "beggars can't be choosers". Right now it is up in the air whether she will take the ride from me. There is tension between my mother and I right now because she feels the need to do things for others.

I am incensed. My mother is taking the neighbors side.

If I can help and it is with little or no risk. Given that you are a good driver and the time you spend on the trip and the fuel and the women is in a need that action is positive therefore you should take here. I usually do help at least the first time even if the person is just a neighbour. Have to say most people are however not happy to recieve help so even if you help the lady she still maybe complaining about something. Just real life experience. It all depends pretty much on what are your habits. All people have different limits on help and helping out.