College "Friends"

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So, I sort of have a dilemma.

There were three girls from my college that invited me to go with them over spring break. When we arrived at the place, I noticed that one girl in particular continuously made derogatory remarks toward me (saying my breasts are too big, calling me childish, correcting me, making fun of me for being poor at one time). Two of the girls were gossiping and whispering while I was getting dressed, and I also overheard one of the girls calling me dramatic while she thought I couldn't hear her. On top of that, they drank and I don't drink. They shop and I hate shopping... They're obsessed with social networking and I'm not... There's just a lot of things that have made me not want to be around these girls.

I tried distancing myself and stopping talking to them, but one of them contacted me out of the blue apologizing as if she did something wrong- which she did. She told me she loved me (as a friend, obviously; this was only after three days of hanging out), and that she "valued" our friendship. I'm feeling something fishy going on. I don't trust these girls, but I cannot figure out their intentions of wanting me to hang out with them when I have no interest in what they do, and they know I don't. They also don't have any interest in my interests.

The girls recently invited me to do another "all girl" dinner-type deal. I have no interest in going with them, so I'm not going to. Can someone explain to me what they possible motives might be? I'm kind of lost about this.

It might possibly be something similar to the plot of the movie "Dinner for Smucks"

Was that an insult? I'm very confused what you meant by that.

They want to be your friend or possibly only the girl who messaged you cares about you and wants you as a friend while at the same time having her other friends (who are mean) as well. Maybe she just like all her friends and likes you too and doesn't care if the other friends talks behind your back. I would personally tell her it made you feel uncomfortable and that you could hear the remarks. BTW, I might add, there are many girls who are friends with each other and criticize each other or "make fun" of the other but in a playful manner(sometimes even serious) and they still hang out with eachother since the other friend overlooks the things she might do. I personally do not like those types of friends who like to talk bad about me in a serious or playful manner and just avoid them. It depends on the person if they really want that type of friend around.

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My post certainly was not meant in a malicious manner. I was suggesting that the people that were inviting you to dinner might not be entirely on the up and up. I am sorry you took it the wrong way, I was only trying to help.

Maybe they were jealous of your looks and hated it that you were not as "smart and funny" as they were.

I'm not sure what this is about, but you should be careful.
I've had bad experiences with similar situations, but they happened before college age.

I hate people like that. Why do they pretend to be your friends and then bully you? They might really think they're your friends.....I'm not sure. It seems like some girls like to have a punching bag in their group of friends....someone they think of as lower than them so they can feel better about themselves or something.

I'm sure they are those "nice girls" Boo was talking about a while ago in the L&D section.