Can't make friends (rant)

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There must be something wrong with my personality, and you can't change a person, you either put up with it of just kill yourself. I get shot down over, and over again, and i'm not on the verge of taking it any longer. People can't and won't accept me, I'm never good enough.

I hate NTs, I wish they would all just f*ck off.

There's plenty of people who like you here.

Probably better not to think about NTs, I find them nearly impossible myself so only speak to fellow Aspies these days.

That's why God created people on the Autistic Spectrum.

I like you Bopp. Your personality's not defective, and while you can't change another person, you can and will change yourself. These things just take time, and some people, like late-bloomers, take longer than others.

People you've met over the internet do not count.
I can't keep internet friends, either.

I can only keep Internet friends, and even that's difficult.

Tim

My main problem is that I fit ion nowhere.
I feel like there is a barrier between me and other people. I would like to fit in somewhere, even if it's just one place. Every message board I do not fit in at. Ive tried many different types.

In life, work, class, I don't fit in. Even family is hard.

If there is no logical solution I think that killing myself is probably the best option, i'd rather be dead than misrable from unacceptance.

The few IRL friends I have are high school classmates who I only sporadically see.

Tim

I used to feel that way in the past which was when I still had to go to school. Now I am a few years past the time when I didn't have to go there anymore. Its a miracle that I came out of that feeling. I think that I learned to deal with that anxiety quite a bit with the help of some experiences with people who are more focused on some essentials in life and that from that I found from going to a certain church etc. I think that I learned that its not too much of a problem of where I am in relation to others because that seems a little distracting anyway. So even though I still don't think that its much of any importance of what people are doing, I still assume that I am not going to disapear or anything anytime soon because of that...

Is making friends the only thing you are living for? Can't you accept that most people are clueless as*holes?

I like you.

there are times like that
people who say they never feel like that, are probably lying ...
and life asks a lot of effort, sometimes for very little in return,
i hope you don't kill yourself, a lot of people would miss you here

i like you(for what it's worth of course), you're intelligent and you dare to come up for your personal point of view, you
say nice things to others, and you're very beautiful, and serious.

i hope you feel better soon...

I think real life friendships are overrated, unless you want someone to do stuff with and go out with. But if you want a friend for communication, someone to share your thoughts with, then an online friendship is fine for that.

Surprisingly, I've met some NTs I really like, although they aren't close friends, unfortunately. Actually most NTs I've liked are business contacts. I think the business world is a lot more aspie friendly in some ways as the social rules are more obvious.

Unfortunately business contacts aren't so much friends.

i think i wouldn't be alive anymore if i didn't have the NT friends who helped me out regularly, like for administration and other illogical stuff (but i don't think i would have had as much trouble in a AS world either (and carément without Aspies i would probably have sticked to my initial suicide plans), as for the rate of survival of an Aspie world i'm not sure, it's an interesting question i think)

I can relate to you Hale_Bopp.