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What the worst generalization you were accused of? Mine is being insecure(I hate that the most-I'm actually very confident) and the otheris also very common is that I'm stuck up.

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Neurotypical. I'm very friendly; feel free to message me.

High on weed.

That I'm a loser with no social skills or friends. Both are blatantly untrue.

People think I hate them because it looks like I'm not making an effort and not interested.

people assuming [presuming?] that I am not interested in them because I have not made the magic moves towards them [IOW appropriate body language and the right words at the right times, whose facility seems to have escaped me].

people seem to assume I am stuck up when I am anything but

i have been referred to as a "space cadet".

That I'm cold and disconnected when people need my emotional support the most.

...which is true when seen from their perspective. I've had a friend tell me about something absolutely horrible that happened in her life recently (abusive and manipulative BF treating her like crap) and while she was crying and sobbing telling me this I could not but keep composed and focused on what she was saying not how because in my view she needed my help and it was my duty to do my best to help her.

So instead of using comforting vocal tones and words I asked her (very politely) about what happened and basically reconstructed what she told me and filling in some gaps she may have skipped and making sure I understood it all. We then came up with a way to help her and make it better.

I was crushed inside at what happened to her but it was as if some door shut on those emotions because helping her was far important than my emotional state.

This was about 3 months ago. Within a week of our chat her primary source of the problem was eliminated and two weeks after that she was much, much better. Today she is fully over it and has found a happiness she tells me she never thought possible. She told me that if it wasn't for me she would've never pulled out of that hole...but that at the time she felt I was a nice but cold SOB because I did not comfort her in her emotional breakdown moment... but that because she knows me she understands its just how I am and that it was the way I took control of the situation right then and there that gave her the strength to do it.

In fact, just last week she told me it was so unusual that I pick up and give her dogs instant emotional support but I can't do that with people. What can I say? *shrug* dogs never lie to me.

i'm not very good at being emotionally supportive, in the "now now, there there..." kind of way. it is far easier for me to just [if the recipient accepts it] hug and caress and rock the person who is hurting.

Unfriendly, ''can't be bothered to talk'', strange.