Comments that touch your buttons

Post Reply New Topic

Hi, most of us are human and have pet peeves about certain phrases that bother us. I was wondering what types of comments set you off.


For me it's when you talk to someone and they respond or talk to you as if you are five by using comments like,

"You're getting excited huh?" For me, putting the word "huh" at the end of a sentence or question gets on my nerves. I find that it's patronizing and condescending as if you can never been taken seriously. The other person talks with no real emotion in their voices.

When other adults ask me where my parents are

When people ask me nosy questions about as if I am a child trying to play grown-up

When i walk into my office there are irritating comments like

" So now you have started talking huh"
"Smile pLease you never smile"
"You have started dressing up well"

Some irritating comments by relatives

"why you have only one child"
"why you can't get along with your in laws
"Why does your hubby adhere to all your orders"

I hate it when one goes and compares another achievements and good luck to yours. It makes me feel like, "Thanks, I guess I am not special enough.

Eg- My mom did that to me 10 years ago about one of my siblings about her having good luck. She was constantly making comments like

"You're sister was taught to paddle her own oars (sp?) as much as possible and got herself out of special ed."

Other things that bother me is whenever I am down and disappointed that things are going my way and I feel like that person seems to have it better off and when one person goes, "You should be happy for them. Instead, you're jealous." Oh I hate that. True I may get jealous that's almost like trying to control someone else's feeling.

-disclaimer: all instances of the word "you" is intended as purely fictional, and NOT intended to offend any persons, living, dead or reading this post, and is purely coincidental.
Or something.


I used to buy into the concepts, slander, and sophistry that haterz would regurgitate, apparently at random.
I really tested whether I was wrong or weird or awful. And I still do as a first Pavlovian response.
But there’s a fundamental logical flaw in automatically assuming everyone else is always right.
...If I can remember.

- ‘Boy somebody got excited.’ ... (wow, shoot down my balloon)
- ‘Why can’t you?’ ... (how should I know? why don’t you tell me about gravity, and if I can punch lame holes in your explanation does it mean you’ll suddenly float away?)
- ‘Relax.’ ... (gah, shut up)
- ‘You’re just making excuses.’ ... (you asked me for an answer, and I’m respecting you enough to dedicate valuable mental run-time to answer you, so try not to call me a liar too. If it was just that I didn’t want to do it, I would have said, “Because, I don’t want to do it.”)
- ‘Nobody else has a problem with it.’ ... (oh, I’m the only person on the planet that does, so I’m either the most bizarre freak ever, or a liar, huh?)
- ‘You make everything complicated.’ ... (*blink blink* I make the world complicated? The car you drive every day has about 30,000 parts that I didn’t make, but you think I’m the one causing it?)
- ‘You’re wrong.’ ... (“Well Mr. 14.01b, I don’t know what the right answer is, and have no guesses on even a wrong answer, but it can’t even possibly be what you said.”)
- ‘I’ve never had a problem.’ ... (or maybe you have, and are just too dumb to know it.)
- ‘You think too much.’ ... (or conversely…)
- ‘Boy you sure over-analyzed that.’ ... (but, you didn’t notice that I did that in approx. 2.61 seconds, so you’re implying I’m obsessive?)
- ‘You’re so negative.’ ... (or maybe I’m more optimistic than you can possibly understand because I already see solutions to everything up to this (“negative”) next point, which by the way, is about a mile farther down the road than the end of your nose.
- ‘You’re looking for problems!’ ... (duh, it’s called preparation, you might wanna go talk to a boy scout.)
- ‘You could just (insert lame idea here) ... (over the course of my life I’ve spent approx. 2 million times more on this than your 15 seconds of contemplation, so thanks for imagining neither I nor anyone else on the planet has thought of that already, AND for getting mad at me for not instantly re-devoting all my current & future life-resources pursuing your thoughtless platitude.

When people point out that I'm ''too old'' or ''old enough'' or when they lecture that I'm a ''fully grown-up adult'', using every word to describe how big I am

''I'm not interested'' (referring to my obsessions)

When people tell me to be quiet when they're watching the telly

''You look a bit funny doing/wearing that''

I do not care for sarcasm.
When people say things that are the opposite of what they really mean,
It bothers me.
It makes no sense.
Why not just say how you really feel instead of saying the opposite?

when people tell me I'm "being silly" when I say something affects me.
and when I'm told to "pull yourself together" when I'm really upset.

Yesterday, I said to my friend who I have a small business with that "I am making next to nothing" (in the business). This is a fact. I make about a dollar an hour. She responded my gesturing a fake slap in my face and saying, "Bad attitude!"

After a few hours, it sunk in and I had a full blown meltdown. Like I'm not worth even one dollar an hour.

Later she said she was just annoyed at the timing of my comment. But when people insinuate that I am worthless in any way, boy, does that push the button.

thanks you guys for the encouraging words =)

-When people say "Hey You" to me
-when people say "Hello" if I'm not paying attention or if I didn't hear them
-if I'm complaining about something like how poofy my hair is and I wish I didn't have it and the person with whom I'm talking to says something like yeah, you're hair is really thick and damaged, I wouldn't want your hair either
-when people say I look older than them
-when people say "No offense but _______"
-when people bring up something and then they say never mind

when people say things like "feed your face" to mean eating, or "nose in a book" instead of saying "reading".

Other comments that touch my buttons

-Whenever I make a mistake and someone makes comments like, "You have a problem don't you?"
-Someone says something like "Let's not talk about that it makes you upset. How about talking about things that you like?"
-Someone says, "Can we talk about happy things please?" I know they are right but that's so superficial
-Someone says "Well maybe....xyx" whenever someone has touched my buttons
-Someone says, "How about we don't do this or that."
-Someone asks you a question when they are angry about knowing the definition of a word. Then you try and then they talk to you like you are stupid.
-That get's on my nerves don't do that." Whenever you are being yourself and some miserable Susie Q tells you to do differently because they like things a certain way.

"You should really try to set a better example"

"Don't let it get to you"

"You can't just ____ when things don't go your way"

"Know what your problem is? You think the whole world revolves around you"

"It's their right, they're entiitled to do that"

"If it were one of your interests you'd be all over it, but since I'm the one who needs help, forget it"

"EVERYone has trouble meeting people"

"You're going out wearing THAT?"

"How long do you plan on leaving that mess?"

"What difference does it make?"

"Maybe if you didn't ____so much you wouldn't be this way"

"You were spoiled rotten when you were that age"

Withdrawn straight from the memory bank