I am not good enough for..... [complete the sentence].

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Due to having Aspergers, there have been numerous disappointments in my life relating to other people. In the beginning, my hopes were up, and I thought I was "good enough" for the following:

1). A friendly neighbor waving and saying "hi" to me regularly as I walk out the door. (For several months, I had the pleasure of a nice neighbor waving at me, until I had a conversation with him, then he stopped doing it)

Conclusion: I am not good enough for friendly neighbor greetings.

2). Being invited on an overnight trip with a friend. (A friend "invited" me to a trip to her sister's house and the zoo. However, her sister had met me already and once she talked to her sister, the invitation was off.)

Conclusion: I am not good enough for overnight trips anywhere, with friends.

3). I have never gotten past the 1st date with a nice guy.

Conclusion: I am not good enough to be in a relationship.

There have been numerous instances in which I was "good enough" to be on the periphery but not good enough to "make it" to somewhere meaningful.

I have this constant inferiority complex, as if I'm not quite up to snuff.

I am reminded that I'm not good enough. Good enough to mean anything to anyone.

The above examples are slights from a few people. However, I came up with those examples, because nothing has happened to the contrary. For example, I've never known my neighbors. I've never been invited overnight anywhere.

I've had friends, but the friendships did not last long.

Have you had instances in which you feel like you aren't good enough for certain things? Or for certain experiences or memories? If so, please vent away.....

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I wasn't good enough for-

1] staying in college, I flailed about for 2 years until it occurred to me with a thudding realization, that I had no business being there.
2] staying in the military/making a career out of it, I flailed about/bided my time as I learned early on that I had no business being there.
3] staying in civil service [federal] employment, I had utterly no business working in a hospital around people/patients. NONE! I shoulda learned so from my army days.

only recently has it occurred to me, that I might be good enough for anything.

not good enough for a two-year-old who is passing out flowers to give one to me. even toddlers pick up on the social awkwardness.

yes, finally somebody else for whom children are wary of.

After getting back from Toronto recently, I know I am not good enough to travel away from home and definitely not outside Canada. WAY too difficult and stressful being in unfamiliar surroundings and I imagine Europe would be a complete nightmare to me.

I'm also not capable of using my degree in Economics at least directly in that field because I'm too damn honest and worldly for my own good.

you had the right stuff to graduate from college, and you are with-it enough to be "worldly" which is something for which to be thankful, because there are lots of folks on these forums who lack these abilities.

I used to be in a rock band. They often treated me like I wasn't good enough to -
1. Rehearse new songs with them. It was as if they wanted me to fall flat on my face in a show.
2. Go out of the rehearsal studio for smoke breaks with them. I don't smoke but that's superfluous. An invite would still be nice.
3. Hang out with the band outside of rehearsal.

I've had a couple of friends this week treat me like crap and I don't feel like saying anything will help. In one instance I tried to talk about it but he shut me down pretty fast. People I've made time for so I can focus on them... just basically saying either I need to be better or I'm not good enough in some way.

It is very tempting to feel like I'm not good enough but honestly I'm sick of it and I'd rather be around people who DO appreciate my taking time out for them, or even just alone, rather than feeling bad over it.

I already have a nasty lung infection. I don't need nasty people on my case as well.

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I've concluded that I don't seem capable of existing near other people for a day... I'm actually as outgoing as I can stand to be and quite a social person, but my friends are a largely transcendent group of whomever doesn't find me repugnant.

if one could choose friends, those would be the type i'd like to have.

Life is full of those things. Even NTs go through this.

People are very superficial. If you don't fit in that little box they have for you, they don't want to bother with you.

This should not be a surprise. If I don't interact well with someone, I may choose to avoid them as well.

It's just that NTs are better equipped to keep trying, and that means a better chance of finding where they fit in.

It's why I keep pushing myself to do social things from time to time. I may not really want to do it, but every now and then it's not that bad, and I might meet someone I get along with.

Still, knowing I don't fit in with most people is why I'm negative about my chances of getting what I hope for in life. I'm rarely ever what people are looking for.

I am not good enough at business skills to run my own business
I am not good enough at self-promotion "
I am not beautiful and intelligent and witty and talented enough to interact with a certain someone who is all of those things and who I find fascinating.

As this is something of a recent development, I suppose it must have a lot to do with my being upfront about ASDs. While the depth of my social interactions has been gradually climbing for a while, the selectivity of those I know in weather or not they can handle my information overload tendencies has gone with it. Luckily some blessed people are immune to this brand of ignorance.

Are you kidding? When I get nervous I do a kind of nervous smile that looks a little creepy from what I've been told. I do this when I see a cute child. They will hide behind their mums and start crying. I make children cry! Ironically, I worked in a daycare centre for awhile and well, my supervisors , co-workers and I all agreed in the end that I had no place working there.

1)I'm not good enough to be able to support myself.
2) I'm not good enough to live independently.
3) I'm not good enough to keep a job.
4) I'm not good enough to maintain a relationship.
5)I'm not good enough to remember to do basic self care things like ordering more of my medication without being reminded my by mum at 28. I'm a 28 year old girl/child.

I do have a degree but that actually makes me feel worse because I think that if I'm capable enough to get a degree what exuse have I for the above list of things?