Befriending complete strangers?

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So after three years, I'm returning to school to get a more marketable degree and I'm anxious about knowing absolutely no one on campus. I have an orientation meeting coming up with some 300 fellow transfer students and I'd like some suggestions on how to break the ice with the aim of laying groundwork to establish friendships with a few of them (if I see fit). I have an INTJ personality and medium to high social anxiety.

I say start of by talking about common things.

You mentioned that your enrolling in a course, so maybe you could ask them or help them with things like navigating around the school, course enrollment procedures, where to get certain items and so on.

If these things work out well for you and your friends, maybe try organising a casual trip to a coffee bar, restaraunt or movie.

From there, then your friendships will hopefully grow

If no-one knows each other, breaking the ice shouldn't be too hard. Just start my talking casually, starting with your commonalites about the course you're doing and related interests. Then listen out for what they say or tell you about their lives etc, and try to relate it back to yourself. As people start mingling in groups of 3 or more, get to know everyone in the circle you're in, say Hello, and don't let yourself be out-framed by different people. Hope that helps

Simple.

Bring a box of ice cubes, go up to the person you with to see and drop them in front of him/her, then say "Now that I've broken the ice..." then just start whatever conversation you like! It's perfect!