worried about my friend

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My best friend right now is being very cryptic and in a way that is causing me a lot of worry and distracting me from things I need to get done. It takes me a while to analyze social events...by myself!

Similar things have happened before, and I always have this annoying reaction that I know is irrational but I feel it anyway, and that is a fear that I will never see her again. Probably because people have disappeared out of my life for reasons I think this might have something in common with. If we are friends then she's one of the best friends I've ever had, and I don't know if I would survive losing her like that. I could turn into a very cold, terrible person I don't want to be.

If she wanted to just leave, my feelings about her wouldn't change and I wouldn't let it screw me up in the short run, but it would seriously screw me up in the long run.

I'm ok and prepared to laugh in some kind of painful way later if I'm over reacting to silence.

Should I just be patient?

My advice is to be patient, and don't worry too much. I know what a chasm a fear of abandonment can be, but try not to let it send you into a tailspin. The best thing to do is ask her, but also recognize she might have issues of her own she's dealing with. That doesn't mean a friend cares any less, even if there's occasional friction.