Wow do you realize how hard conversations are?

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I hate when people will start a conversation with me on Facebook or texting or something, and then not respond for twenty minutes. I understand that they're busy but then why not just say "I'm busy" or not strike up a conversation in the first place? What is the point? Who are you? Who am I? What am I?

Oh, totally :-p what is up with that ?
Or else they just walk off in the middle of a FB text-cat discussion without comment.

@Ladywoofwoof - You have just about the scariest avatar I've ever seen. Now I can't sleep tonight!

I have the same pet peeve as well. I mean a person wouldn't just wander off during an in person conversation or randomly hang up on a person during a phone call!

Each individual tends to have a different attitude towards facebook chat etc. Many people don't intend to use fb for long/serious conversations, just as tool to send a quick message, like texting. It's impossible to tell what others are up to on fb, for what you know they may suddenly have had an urgent phonecall for knock on the door or computer crash, in which case there may not be time to say 'back in 20 mins' etc.

I do this because I don't consider online conversations the same as face to face ones. At home, surrounded by work and distractions, it just doesn't seem reasonable to expect that people are going to always be prompt, attentive, and have nothing else that they're doing or obligated to pay attention to while typing about video games or the weather.

This is why I accept very few people onto my messengers. I always multitask because chat is rarely stimulating enough and I fill my life with a number of things that need to be done. Food on the stove won't stop cooking and my bird (when I bring her home) won't stop getting into things while I tell several people I'm stepping away. I don't want to be someone's evening entertainment, I just want someone to exchange messages with as able when we're sitting at home studying, working, or reading for a bit of distraction and company.

If I wanted something else I would visit people offline or have a Skype voice/video call.

I don't use facebook because I got sick of turning down friend requests from people who knew my friends in high school that I've never talked to.

I think none of these thoughts or feelings are specific to ASD folks. I get annoyed the same way and so do plenty of people I know.

What I find both annoying and funny at the same time is when you try to start a conservation with someone on chat on social media sites and the person acts annoyed that you are messaging them when they are busy.

So why did you not go offline on chat or log off the site? lol

I have no problem with internet conversations and I find that I have an easier time with chatting. The same applies to having texting conversations.

When it comes to conversations, I often dominate them and talk about myself which it something that I continue to practice not doing. I am also learning to talk less and listen more. I am finding that I don't need to talk all the time.

Yes I agree conversations are very hard.

Asynchronous communication is the best.

I not only have this problem but also have a problem deciphering some messages I get-sooner or later there will be translators for chatspeak and toolazytotypevowels into English.

^^ Yes, lol, communication is far better when asynchronous.

ST, i have the same problem of being too self-oriented - steering every topic to me and my interests - which naturally is often more interesting to me. In a certain frame of mind, or with a certain attitude, it's possible to actually want to focus more on the other person and their interests, but I often don't know how to get there, or forget to try to. Some people are just fascinated by others. I sometimes experience that pleasure.