This is very hard for a parent

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My son was diagnosed with Aspergers, about 2 years ago. He is 16 and in a big High School. Everyday it is a heart break to hear his stories of how mean kids are to him. I just don't know what to do. He basically lives in his bedroom, comes out for food and that is about it. I would like for him to join a group but as we all know, groups are not a word he wants to hear. I thought maybe a job. Will not sure about that either. Kids are so rotten in school. We don't have a Asperhers group or autism group in school, so your kind of on your own. Are there any teens that could give me advice on how to help my son make a friend.

I recomend you introduce him to wrong planet. there are lots of teens and maybe some living near him going through the same things.

I know that bullying of asperger's kids can be horrible and I can understand why he'd be so hesitant to join a group at school, but you could try to talk to the teacher to see what they can do about the bullying.

you can try teaching him to make friends via websites , it is non confrontational and you do learn so much.
joning wp and other sites is a good way of socialising without making the mistakes we all make. (us aspies)
i joined a load of websites and support groupos and had to leave a lot of them as i was getting 60 e-mails a day, but it is still important interaction for him.

I dropped out of public high school and finished high school via correspondence course. This way I was actually able to concentrate on learning and get some of the bad taste out of my mouth before going to college in a different area

Things will get better. Does he like sports or physical activity? I'm 23, but most people I hang out with now I know through sports, and from some support groups I go to (they have nothing to do with AS or autism). High school is a sh***y time for people with AS, when he's older things will level out.

I think you should have him look at WP.

Get him to join WrongPlanet.

just having online friendships, and no close real-life friendships, isn't an ideal situation, but it sure is better than having no friends at all.

Maybe chatting with the right people online can help him get his confidence up.

I can relate to him very well.

Is there a possibility that your son is mistaking regular social interaction with insults? In the past, I was bullied badly myself. While I do remember moments in my life where I know for sure that the meaness was intentonal, there were other times I looked back and said "Meh, maby I was over reacting." If you ask him this, he will probibly go something among the lines of "Of course not! They are truley being mean to me!" He will probibly be both saying the truth and unintentonally be mistaken at the same time. :/ So your on your own on that.

I do have a suggestion though. Is it possible that your child has GAD? (Link to information here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_anxiety_disorder). I have it myself. Alot of Aspies have it along with Aspergers. After reading the article and you think that your child has it, you can go consult a doctor to figure out how to make it better and get a perscription. I, myself, with the assitence of my mother, did just that. Got some prozac and I can talk a bit easier to people now. Apperently, anxiety makes it harder to communicate so well. You might not get what I'm saying but I certainitly do

I do wonder sometimes of that great list of aspie symptoms. How many are intrinsic to being aspie, versus how many are artificial of our early treatment in society? I cannot imagine that being immersed in "The Lord of the Flies" does any of us a lot of good.
Get him on WP. It is a silly place.
make that a friendly place!