Why?

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I don't know if this is the place to put this, but I have another question. Why is it so easy for me to be concerned and open with strangers but when it comes to someone who is close to me and cares for me I'm super distant and pushing them away all the time? Its like they have to fight for my attention, but with people I don't know it is easy for me to be open and attentive.

I've often theorized it's the fact that you have nothing to loose.

There might be deeper emotional issues at hand.

With a stranger, I'm not too "open" but I can easily talk with a stranger than a family member. I think a part of that is I have issues with being "open" with my family....things I want to keep to myself. So, to share at all invites more sharing and maybe I'm guarding myself from being too exposed to people I am not comfortable allowing to get too intimate with me.

I'm the same and only realised it recently, but my mum's been pointing it out for years. My theory is that the people I feel comfortable enough to be open and concerned with are usually people with some sort of authority or boundary (teachers/tutors/other parents etc) so I wouldn't be able to get close to them anyway which might be why. I usually freak when people do get emotionally close to me and don't find it comfortable at all. Atm, the person I find easiest to talk to (and, to a point, 'care' about but that seems the wrong word) is a parent of some children I know through school and there's a definite boundary there and I think she'd let me know if I was crossing it so it feels a lot safer.