Why do people have this attitude?

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Why do a lot of people have the attitude of "even if you don't like the people you share your apartment/house with you stay there anyway".?

Because people are often very emotionally fickle and can change their whole outlook and attitudes within a few seconds.

I could never understand how people angrily tell each other to 'eff off' and yet are all nice and huggy towards each other moments later.

Maybe I am showing my age, but when somebody tells you off, they are mad with you and they mean it and so you should give them space (or avoid them altogether).

Now, when somebody tells me off and is angry with me, I need to clarify with them whether it is only temporary or permanent and for how long should I go away.

Most NTs seem to get this without having to ask about the severity of their dislike and if it is only a temporary occurrence.

I refused to have anything to do with my brother for 6 months the last time he told me to get lost and never return.

At the end of that 6 months, he was all like 'I was so worried about you...why did you piss off for so long?'

It was like 'hurr durr...because you told me to'.

He told me he didn't mean it literally and I was all like 'well, how the hell am I 'sposed to know what you mean when you say those things to me?'

It's a question without an answer....when people say things they don't mean (or maybe they do for the time they have said it, but as soon as the words leave their lips, they have forgotten those words were even spoken) - yet how is the listener 'sposed to know whether or not those words were really meant and for how long they apply?

This is why I usually ask for everything to be written down now. People are more hesitant about writing than speaking.

Yet, NT's seem to have mastered this....knowing what other people mean when they talk, without saying 'is that a permanent eff off, or only a temporary one?'

This is something I'll never get either.

I don't know, but it's f*****g stupid. I've lived with all sorts of people who have driven me absolutely mental, and the only reason I've ever stayed with those people for any length of time is just out of sheer f*****g necessity. Once I start getting full disability funding from the government, I'll finally be able to afford my own apartment, though I admit that it's going to be tough managing my own house. Of course, it'll be great since it'll be MY place, and for the most part I won't have to deal with other people unless I want to, but I'm still going to have to learn how to cook, clean, and otherwise take care of myself. I may also be eligible to have my disability funding program manage my finances, in which case, THANK FSM, as I'm horrible with finances.