An Incomplete Guide to Not Creeping

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I read this post on John Scalzi's blog, Whatever <clicky> a while back, and was reminded of it while browsing through this forum.

It might relieve you to know that NT people creep each other out all the time. Sometimes through ignorance, sometimes by just being generally awful people. If you read through the comments, you'll notice that a few people try to use Aspergers as an excuse for this behavior. I don't think that this makes sense, because the stories are generally about persistent sexual advances, not social awkwardness. The Whatever community generally refuted those posts well, IMO.

I don't want to post the entire thing here, because Scalzi discourages that. I understand why; he's a professional writer and even though he doesn't make money off his blog, he still likes to know where his readers come from and have a voice in the conversation. I don't even think that most of it applies to most Aspies. However, for an Aspie who has suddenly gained some confidence and has decided to engage socially, the link above may provide some useful information.

I tried to find good excerpts, but I had a hard time cutting it down. Here's an important bit, and maybe the biggest challenge for us.

Nothing earth shattering here... personal space is good, don't physically block anyone into a corner to talk, and don't trail them home unasked. They teach this in elementary school.