social regression

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That may be a weird title but I don't know any other way to say it. I'm a 22 year old guy and I feel like im regressing socially. I have become extremely awkward and anti-social in the past year. I find myself being very impatient and hateful with people on a day to day basis,what is wrong with me? Most days I just want to be alone. When I was a youngster I was outgoing and happy, my personality has done a 180. Can any other aspies relate to this? Any of you gone through a similar phase?

I've been non social for years. The few times I did find myself in social settings it was with people who were, how should I say, the opposite of normal. They were either alcoholics, drug addicts or the left-of-center punk crowd I used to run with. I'm isolated now because I live in a normal suburb surrounded by normal people. I'm definitely trespassing here so I try to keep as low a profile as possible.

I can relate. I also use to be a happy kid, but when you're a kid, you're naive and you haven't been damaged yet. The more damaged I got by society, the more I became isolated.

Don't despair, I think I regressed in my teens but have rapidly progressed in recent years.

Going through life constantly lagging behind your peers in social skills can cause you to develop inferiority complexes, or become more shy and anxious. And as you experience negative social feedback it can cause you (as it has done for me) to go about trying to avoid certain social situations where I had a bad experience, or avoid certain topics of conversation knowing they could lead into an awkward question etc. To combat social regression the first thing is to recognise what's happening, perhaps think about examples of how you've regressed, find someone, maybe a parent or relative who you can be open with about any insecurities, and take positive steps to become more sociable.

How are you being impatient or hateful? Do you dislike people in general, is it their opinions, their smell or just their presence that bothers you?

I´ve tried socializing in different kind of groups of people, thinking that I might speak the same language as the socialist, the punkies, junkies, hippies, etc. and when I´ve gotten disillusioned, my will to spend time around people have decreased. Do you feel misunderstood, is that it? Do you think the issue lies within you or them or in between?

I'm really trying now to end an extended period of what I suppose could be called social regression. I've been through a long time of anti-social, misanthropic feelings and avoidant behavior and I've realized that it has to stop. Words can hardly express how sick I am of social isolation, financial worries because I've been avoiding looking for another job that pays better, etc.

This year I haven't even attempted to make friends. Last year I deactivated facebook.
I am social with my family and boyfriend but that's it.
I just decided to be anti-social this year I guess

Well, to be honest, Facebook is a waste of time, there are creepers in there, and lack of privacy. I felt better when I got rid of it.
To the main issue of this topic, maybe is because those around you are misunderstanding you, and they don't motivate you enough to make any attempt to socialise with them, and thus your social regression?

I tend to go backwards when I feel depressed, then I feel more depressed because I have gone backwards.