Weeping after socializing?

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Been doing this after going out or being around many people, which I've been doing a lot this year. Usually when I'm back home alone or late at night. At first I thought it was about my grandma (she died in 2011). Knowing that she isn't there to see me make new friends, new experiences etc. But there are times when she isn't even on my mind and I still have a strong urge to do so. It's always feels like a tug at the heart, than afterwards I feel really exhausted. I've also noticed that I tend to sweat under my arms after going out, which is a little weird since I hardly ever sweat. Has one ever done this or felt that way?

Yes.

I know for me socialising is exhausting, and if I havn't had a particularly good time or have felt excluded I definitely have moments on my own where I curse myself for not being able to act normal or for looking weird.

But in general its understandable for you to feel exhausted after socialising

I definitely can relate; get upset even when I have had a good time.

I think it has to do with trying to process all the various emotions attendant with social occasions. The same thing happens when I go to the movies; I leave crying even if it is a comedy, and feel exhausted.

No, I have never done that. Why would I cry after having a good time? I'm assuming we're talking wanted socializing; and even if it wasn't, it wouldn't make me cry. I only cry about sad or painful things, and sometimes when I'm touched.

I don't get it.
I can get exhausted, but it leaves me feeling good just the same. It kind of makes me feel a bit hyper and flushed as if I'm a little tipsy but without intake of alcohol.

Yes, I just did this on Friday night actually. There's a couple of things going on...the first is that there is just a sensory and emotional overload that needs to release itself.

The second is that often, in a large group of people or highly social event, as the night goes on I will start to feel more and more sad. It's as you say, a "tug at the heart," or like something is missing that I can't quite put my finger on. It's like I'm on the outside looking in at all of these people enjoying their time together, and I just can't relate or feel that same connection. The best word to describe it is melancholy. I cry not because I want to have lots of friends and be super social, but because the whole situation, that disconnect, is just sad. Once I spend more time by myself this feeling fades and I start to feel normal again.