A time and place

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As the saying goes, "There is a time and a place for everything." How many of you believe this is true?

One question does baffle me, though. Why is it inappropriate to mention some things at the wrong time, even when we are speaking with someone we trust?

I can give you a good example by using this scenario.

Once, we had a substitute teacher in history class, and I knew his girlfriend. I mentioned this to my assistant, and she said that we wouldn't be discussing that when we did. I have had very good luck with school this year. My teacher's assistant is great. I really like her. However, even though I trust her so much, that doesn't mean we can talk about the fact that we knew my substitute history teacher's girlfriend. This proves that there is, "a time and place for some things."

Has anyone had any experiences in life in which they had learned this lesson?

Try this one. I live in San Francisco and once
hung at Borders for years. I thought by being
nice(actually turned out diruptive in their eyes),
and interupted there conversations, said hello
inappropriately, demanded social attention thinking
of them as the closests things to a friend.

Well, I and the managers had words, "if you keep
talking to MY EMPLOYEE'S and, or if I get one
more complaint from the staff you are banned
from the store". Needless to say since book #6
is coming out I now( and recently being consciously
aware of how I am percieved by others, thanks
to my employer and the self-study, and started
going to www.WrongPlanet.Net) I have now a
new enclave, Starbucks and awareness of my
affect on people.

Nothing is perfect, I still get the look! But
toning down my behaviour, and not forcing myself
upon others I can say things have slightly improved.

1)....Know when to dialogue and not too.....
2)....Being a AS/HFA type personality,
"don't force your presence on others"
3) ...Try to look at the bigger picture,

•how you are percieved
•how you percieve others
•go with you instincts

With all this in mind knowing proper
protocol, I would have been a more
successful person than I am now(or in this
case-not successful I-Physically).

I hope this gives you insight into your
question.

[Ghosthunter
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Joined: Mar 20, 2005
Posts: 181

"A long time ago there was a boy
who would walk into conversations, and
wonder why he was rejected by most.
This boy would grow up and when
things like emotions overwhelmed him
would throw boxes and whatever to
remove these venomous feelings of
misunderstanding. Years will have
pass and he became silent, but this
venomous feeling would find other
options to express.
Then came Mr.Focus. He would
from within the mind of the boy turned
adolesent, then young adult guide and
show patience as the venoum feelings
would become more complacent to
Mr.Focuses good intentions.
Sometimes it took pain, suffering,
starvation, and many variable to tame
the venomous feeling but patience of
Mr.Focus would stand firm. "Back to top]

This is to just remind you that in
a imperfect world one can only be true
to themself and let events ride their
course and let your inner truth reign.

Ghosthunter:

It sounds to me like you have come to realize that you have to assess situations first. Did you just find out the day that happened? Sometimes, it takes a while for us to learn social lessons. There is a way of getting around it. We just have to think about it. Then, it proves what intelligent individuals we are. I believe we should put our mind to things.

I got a clue with Border's, and
the big awakening when I got out
of the "AS/HFA" closet by having
it aired out by my employer who
is supportive, but still must run a
business.

I can say with this knowledge,
a better paying job maybe better
found since I am conscious of my
actions.

Does this answer your question?

i dunno. never really thought about it. i gues when that is said it usually means at home
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Axelkat:

Do you mean that the time and place for everything to occur in is at home?

in privacy is what i mean. not for everything though. i was just thinking about when people say,"This is not the time nor the place". Thats what i was referring to. I must have misunderstood the point. Here it goes again:

No, there is not a time nor place where everything is acceptable. For example, is a murder or robbery(and so on...) made okay by being in a certain place at a certain time. Most things are made okay through certain circumstances(example: murder in self-defense) which does not mean a different time and place.
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