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Miyah
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24 Aug 2010, 6:08 am

I had recently had a bad falling out with a respite provider which was a year ago over the fact that I did not follow through on my original plans to see a movie that I had invited her to. She had been so angry that she started talking about everything that was wrong with me and how one friend had made it clear that he didn't want to be with me and that I was insane. She also accused me of getting mad at people too often and said that I needed to be in counseling. Finally, she dropped me off at my Aunt's where I was staying and said she she would not be allowed to take me to the bus anymore or work for my aunt and I due to this.

Not long after this, I ended up moving out of my aunt's house and getting my own place, and she found out. I was going to get a set of china dishes that belonged to her mom and I called and thanked her for that and everything seemed cool. A week and a half later, however, she dumped the box of them on the front door but never even bothered to call or anything. So, I did not invite her to my house warming party.

Finally, I saw her driving her truck last night while I was waiting for the bus and I said hello and was being cordial. However, just talking to her I had this really icky feeling inside, and she just seemed for phoney and superficial. She just had a plastered smile on her face and you could hear it in her voice.

Do you think being cordial to her in public was a good idea?



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24 Aug 2010, 6:45 am

yes. you act nice in public but have NOTHING to do with her otherwise.



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24 Aug 2010, 2:47 pm

I mean, not once has she bothered to call me since I moved out and see how I am doing. Not once has been even bothered to invite me over to dinner or invite me anywhere. Finally, not once has she even bothered to send me an e-mail to ask how I was doing.

She had also done a number on my emotionally when it came the the movie theater incident and I trusted her. However, she was always patronized me by talking down to me as a child when she knew good and well what I was capable of. She also seemed to be the selfish type that was always covering her own butt for different things.



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24 Aug 2010, 7:53 pm

Is it possible for you to just ignore her? Just give her a nod of acknowledgement when you met, but have nothing else to do with her. Don't even try to be cordial and said hello. She obviously want nothing at all to do with you.