I am confused.

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I was recently invited to a New Year's party at someone's house this evening and we both discussed that they would pick me up from the nearest form of public transportation. This is since I do not drive. I confirmed with them via text since I had not heard from back. They told me that they could not and wondering if one of our other friends could give me a ride there.

They most recently got their driver's license and cannot take passengers for 6 months according to current driver's laws. Yet they did not bother to tell me this. This was after I had confronted them as to whether they were interested:
B/C:

They also have had a problem before where I would invite them to things and they bail out due to family wanting them to do something last minute like a special family event. I have also gone to their events before after I was invited where I was practically pushed out the door 30 minutes later. I also feel ignored every time I go to the parties. It is as if they are more interested in their NT friends.

I asked them if they want to hang out and they said, "Oh I would love to get together but things often come up a lot."


Again, I am super confused. They say they are my friend but their actions tell me otherwise.

another chapter of "humans can be tremendous disappointments." find other associates, these present ones are not even "fair weather" anything.

Now luckily I was invited to another party since I have gone there for years and I am headed over there. While I am pretty hurt that they did invite me to the party and pulled what they did, there is another person I do not want to be around myself since I am trying to let them go. So it is probably all for the best.

What bothers me while it is none of my business, this situation involves the person who I want to avoid and the flaky party host. The party host does not appear to like the person even though they are leading them around. Now they originally did not want to invite this person to their party and their mother forced the issue since they live with their mother right now. So while I am avoiding, I feel for the person who isn't wanted around and only invited because the host "Had too."


I really think that is pretty mean of them or so the host told me when I called them on the carpet.

They could have just forgotten they couldn't drive you.

I would be confused as well, it's extremely tough to read social situations. It's just a constant guessing game with no confirmation ever if I am wrong or right, just me being (possibly) over-analytical and feeling like I am being toyed with. In these situations I would separate (or isolate) myself a little, if they want to hang out they will ask me. Then I'll decide if I am too busy or not too busy (most likely too busy, f**k a party). Friends? Heh, more like acquaintances. The title of friendship is earned, friends are the people who have my full trust, meaning there is sufficient understanding, mutual acceptance/respect, and minimum guessing game.
Even without that friendship, I do great as a lone wolf for the most part (as long as I don't get caught up in negative thinking). Advantages are more freedom for me, more work on myself, no social obligations, less drama, less confusion.

Dealing with the confusion though, is damn near torment, and I'll distance myself from anyone who causes too much...

I was thinking of the same thing. However, it turns out that they told another friend about not being able to drive me due to the new state laws. New drivers cannot drive with a passenger at all for six whole months.

I ended up going to the other party since I had been there before and it was on public transportation and I kept aching to go anyway. Then there is the other person who I am trying to avoid and cut out of my life so it worked out for the best. Plus the host was not to excited about having that person at the party either.

Last edited by Summer_Twilight on 01 Jan 2014, 10:59 am, edited 1 time in total.

Stop thinking! They told you when it came up situation