I don't get it.

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I was recently invited to a New Year's Party at someone's house who also lives on the Autism spectrum. They happen to reside with a parent at this time and do not live anywhere near a bus line. However, they did live a few miles from a mass transit train station.

They recently got their driver's license and a car. They openly said with their own words that they would pick me up from the station and take me to their house for the party over to phone in front of another friend of mine. We agreed together. When it came to the exact date, they did not follow through when I had confirmed with them since I did not hear anything. They said that they could not pick me up because something came up last minute.

1. One of the family members told them two hours before I contacted them that they could not pick me up due to new states laws in place.
2. So they told me to ask for a ride from one of their other guests which are also my friends.

I later asked why one of the other family members could not have given me a ride instead. The story was that they tried to plead for help but the parent and sibling both refused. I nearly went since another friend was offering to pick me up but I was so angry that I went to another party on public transportation.

The host knows that I do not drive and yet they invited me to a party that I either had to catch a cab to or carpool with someone to get there.

I have talked to a few different people:

1. Someone else on WP thinks that this person is a casual liar who is not aware of their actions or they were just saying something that felt good at the time.
2. Another friend of mine said felt they they probably knew the rules all along and were using excuses.

What I want to know is whether or not they wanted me there in the first place even though I was invited.

I'm not sure if this applies to the situation you've described, but I think a lot of times people who can drive don't really "think" about what it's like trying to get around when you cannot drive.

i don't know about that there was a time when everyone who drives couldn't so they understand as for ops question


i think if they wanted you there bad enough they would have found a way to get you there

Generally yes, but I would add this.

I've known some people who will make plans without thinking about things like the law. Depending on how old the people are involved, some states don't' allow passengers with a new driver at all, or after a certain time of day.

It is possible that the person who offered to pick you up, didn't think about this aspect.

Thing is that they said some other really strange things that were a turn off.

E.G. They told me that a family a member wouldn't let him pick me up due to the laws. They said that their sibling told them two hours before talking to me. Then they told me when I called them out almost two weeks later that his mother told him and would not let him pick me up.

It left such a bad taste in my mouth that I went to the other party and had fun since it was accessible for me. Plus I had done that party 4 other times in a row.

He also tried to lie that he was going to come to my New Year's Day Brunch and never showed up. I also heard through the grape vine that he had plans to spend with another friend since she was a party that day. I heard it from two different people too.

I called him on the carpet about his little stunt on New Year's by asking why his family could not have helped. This was when I chose to let him go. He tried to say that his mother and sister refused to help me,.

So that is where it makes me wonder if he even wanted me there in the first place. Then again why was I invited liked that if he knew I could not drive?

Last edited by Summer_Twilight on 18 Jan 2014, 11:47 am, edited 1 time in total.

yes very strange but that's people for you really most will deceive or lie to you at some point

I know it.

I was talking to another friend of mine who has connected with the person who had I thought was a friend. They explained to me that they had talked to him and that they could not tell me every detail of what was said. At the same time they told me that the he is interested in me but has a bad problem with scheduling and had been putting a lot of his friends on the bottom of his list lately.

Then again it makes me wonder if he is only saying those things because it's what my friend probably wants to hear.