02 Feb 2014, 9:07 pm
One of my friends at work is an aspie, he's probably in his mid/late twenties. Whenever he tries to have fun while working, make friends...he likes to toss something at someone, or put something on their head. Or even his head. This includes interacting with some of our higher managers...which can turn into a treacherous situation, unfortunately.
I tried to talk to him about it only doing this with his friends, or in smaller non-work situations (?), as he made one person at work really mad. Also, my supervisor (really unprofessionally!) told me that he feels like my buddy is unpredictable and potentially dangerous. Which I told him was wrong....and it kinda broke my heart 
When I talked to my buddy, he seemed confused that anyone would take him the wrong way. He told me he was just trying to show everyone he knows how to have fun...
What can I say? Is it weird to say "how else can you have fun with other people?" Or, "maybe only do this around people who know you?" Not sure. Any help is great.
03 Feb 2014, 4:24 am
03 Feb 2014, 10:25 am
03 Feb 2014, 1:22 pm
I tried to talk to him about it only doing this with his friends, or in smaller non-work situations (?), as he made one person at work really mad. Also, my supervisor (really unprofessionally!) told me that he feels like my buddy is unpredictable and potentially dangerous. Which I told him was wrong....and it kinda broke my heart
When I talked to my buddy, he seemed confused that anyone would take him the wrong way. He told me he was just trying to show everyone he knows how to have fun...
What can I say? Is it weird to say "how else can you have fun with other people?" Or, "maybe only do this around people who know you?" Not sure. Any help is great.
I was like that before. Not so much in terms of throwing stuff at people or putting stuff on people's heads, but more like just saying inappropriate things/acting in inappropriate ways. Although the thing is, my behavior wasn't extremely out of place, it was just incongruent with the "values" of the group I was hanging out with. In other social groups I had been part of, said behavior was perfectly acceptable. So what did I learn? Unlike what we're taught in society, its not a virtue to always "be yourself". Sometimes you have to change your behavior and conform in order to fit in.
I think one of the issues some of us potentially face is that we take the social lessons handed down to us from society and the media at face value without actually thinking about said lessons critically. Just because acting a certain way "feels right" doesn't mean that it actually is right.
03 Feb 2014, 10:34 pm
Thanks for your responses! 
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