People leaving stuff at your place to get "connected&qu

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Part of thing that I have noticed since getting a dorm last year is this trend of people leaving their stuff at my place

Here is an example:
Person I know lets me borrow his gloves. I give them back to him next time I see him, he is all 'keep the gloves'. Second time I offer to return them, he wants me to keep them [note: I do not know where they are currently, and I wonder if this woman I know stole em]

Other example: He leaves a tablet at my dorm. He leaves his mouse and video games of another friend there.

Third Example: A girl I know left a shoe of hers here (how the hell do you lose a shoe) and I think some other clothing items.

Theories to explain this:

First example: He wants me to keep it as "collateral" and to "cement" the friendship. He owes me a lot of money, so he is doing those things to try to show that he is 'paying off' the debt.

Second Example: A justification to return to my place with his girlfriend

Third Example: She wants to hang with me some more

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EDIT: I have one of his blankets he left over here. Other than it being soiled, this would be another case of collateral. After washing, I have another blanket/quilt to use in my dorm. Is this another case of collateral?

Hell, this might not even be councious, but subcouncious........

EDIT 2: This guy's girlfriend left her boots and plush at his bed/by his bed to "implant" memories of her and to remind him of her (The plush smells like her etc). I think something similar is done with that.

Weird. Maybe they are just more flighty than you. Someone leaving one shoe? Wtf?

We had a similar situation in our family, when my brother got married and we kept leaving stuff at his place. Were we trying to get him back, subconsciously? I don't know. But his wife fixed it - although we weren't pleased - she threw everything out. She did not call or ask. She just threw it out immediately. It's harsh, but it works. And what did she say when we asked? 'Oh, I didn,t know what to do with it so I threw it out.'

You could always sell him out. Start preaching the money game. Like dude, where is my money. And dude I need my money. Or I would like you a whole lot more if I had my money. Or I will trade you your one shoe, and this previously soiled blanket for my money. Or, I really don't want you and your girl hanging around, sexing all over the place, unless I get my money. In fact that one really is not about the money. Or, if you think our friendship is not about the money, your dead wrong, so can I please have my money. You can keep the shoe, and the girl, just give me my money. Or, I'm going to need to pimp out your girl, because I want my money. Were is my money? Are you hiding my money? Do you have anything I could actually want? A gun, a stereo, your parents jewelry? Something that is equivalent to say perhaps... money?

Is this rap?

Seriously though, I have gotten people out if my life by having them owe me money, and knowing they will never pay me back. If you want to be friends with people, that is the stuff you need to deal with. Either they like you, you are part of their supply, or both.

^oh, he will pay me back. He already provided 'collateral' (ticket to an anime con which is worth 65 USD at the door) which I can keep anyway, and his check is coming next week. And if it's a ruse it's a bit weird given he took his girlfriend with him when we went to a mall to see what he'd get for her - i.e. he'd have to deal with both her and me if he renegs on that.

EDIT: third example, the girl and the shoe. That's not his girlfriend actually, someone else I know.