Rejection is like a wound that is open but heals.

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I look at rejection that way like I wrote in the subject. I have been sick of the amount of guys I try to talk to on dating sites that would reject me. Even with a casual conversation. I never even have consistent friendships for the most part. I always wanted someone to connect with for love and friendship. Rejection makes me stronger and it starts to become a laughing matter to me. I'm just someone diagnosed on the spectrum with a hell of a personality.

Yeah, me too!

I like your approach as well, but mine is albeit a little bit different since I am more on the pessimistic side of things. My approach (at least many times during childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood) is that I just feel defeated and accept the fact that I'm just fated to be lonely. Then as a result of that (negative energy), it drives me to seek out power (no-lifing a craft or an activity or even focus on work/school). I don't really like doing that, but with many rejections in life (and more to come), it's unfortunate that I arrive to that state.

For some, it simply doesn't heal, and things eventually get so bad that we risk a lot of emotional stability by merely approaching people.

When I was younger I used to approach women much more readily, with the false belief that I would eventually 'grow thick skin' . Well I was wrong, and the accumulation of rejections replayed over and over again in my head dead massive damage to my ego and self-esteem.

And replaying those rejections over and over again is something that still keeps me up at night.

I just don't think a human heart was meant to be berated in that way, I still keep each and every last one of those rejections as lucid as ever in my head. I'm obviously not desired, but I'm not going to put myself through the torment of having this fact confirmed day after day.

Maybe the reason that you find it funny is because those are just people who you only meet on the internet who you don't really know. Anytime rejection will hurt is it someone who you have been in a long term relationship decides to cut you off without warning. That is especially true when you think they are your friend.