How well did you get along with your classmates?

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Wasn't sure if this belonged in the School/Education forum or here in Social Skills. This is about how you related to the other kids in class when you were in primary and secondary school.

For me, it changed a bit overtime. I've had the misfortune, I think, that I've switched schools a lot, and even in the same school I would be introduced to different classes every year.

From my 5th to my 7th year (of age), I got along relatively well with the other kids. I don't remember being treated differently for any of my autistic traits. I'd typically get along well with the other boys. However, I usually didn't invite them home, as I preferred to play alone at home.

From my 7th to my 10th year, I went to a special school, and there the situation didn't change much. I got along with most kids in class, although I also disliked some.

From my 10th to my 12th, I moved back to regular education, so I guess the kids there had a bit more trouble dealing with my autism. But again, none ever became close friends or came over to my house to play (because I wanted it that way). There were some fights.

From my 12th to 16th I was in secondary school. Although it was again a kind of special school, designed for kids with some sort of behavioural or learning disorder, it was here that I started to notice the formation of cliques. There were popular kids, there was an in-between group, and then there were the unpopular, 'outcast' kids. I was part of the latter group. And these were arguably all neuro-atypical children, who should know what it's like to be at a disadvantage when compared to others! I got along famously with my 'band of geeks' as I like to refer us as, and I guess our bond was strengthened by the knowledge that we were all the 'class rejects'.

After that, I dropped out of education.

Well, that's my story in a nutshell. What's yours?

I was going to the same school for all the 11 years. People came and left, but some were always in this class like me. I was hardly talking to anyone, classmates didn't notice me, only on tests - I was like the smartest one, and I knew more that what school was offering when it came to subjects that were interesting to me. I helped, because I was taught to be kind and didn't understand that not literally kind - helping everyone when asked. So people were using me, I wrote tests quickly and solved them for the others. When I was in the 8 grade, 13-14 years old, I thought I needed a friend, because walking alone was bad. It wasn't like that for me, but my parents told everyone needs a friend. Than a new girl came and she started hanging out with me, she was smart and nice, and like my first friend. After a year I understood she was trying to change me, manipulate me in some way. I thought she was annoying and tried to ignore me. Then one group of girls thought I was interesting, we were talking sometimes, and they invited me to a cafe with them. But I was talking to one of them or to no one at all, I don't like companies. Then I finished school and have only one friend, but she's in Spain now.
That's all.

Got along well up until puberty hit and everyone turned into aggressive a-holes. Stopped going to school because of the torment around 6th grade, which is precisely when puberty hit for most kids, and after skipping school countless times, a few court appearances, and 'social promotions' later, I dropped out as soon as I got high school.

Massive waste of time that was, some kids don't belong in school, wish that kids that are tormented would consider the path I took instead of offing themselves, as there is no one that can coerce you to go to school.

I remember wanting to have friends and not be so lonely, but I didn't know how to engage in conversation or interact. I was a sweet kid, always willing to help everyone whether it be school work or other trouble. Sometimes I would walk to and from school and to and from classes with other girls. But they didn't talk to me. It was like I wasn't even there. I just tagged along with them because I didn't want to be alone. I desperately wanted to belong to a group of friends.

I recently found a bunch of of old classmates on facebook. These are kids I spent 7 years of school with, even if we weren't always in the same classroom. They are all still friends in groups, according to their facebook friends lists.
I wonder why no one asked to friend me?

The worst part was when I found an old teacher had posted the class picture for many years of his students. He was great! And he remembered all his student's names. Well, the students commented on the pictures and on each other. Some even asked whatever happened to such-and-such. No one asked whatever happened to me. And since my name was already there, no one had tried to friend me on facebook. Those photos had been posted at least 5 years ago.

So here I am. Still invisible. No one remembers me.

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I'm seeking friends to play games with on YIM, and maybe chat if we're comfortable. If not, that's ok too!
No pressure. Just games.

i was bullied from age 6-13 for being weird, but i had this one girl that i could follow around, but we never spent any time together outside school, and when i started a completely different school when i was 13, i was very quiet and i didnt make any friends until i was 16, but atleast i was just ignored here! now im in what i guess would be high school, and i have a "clique", but im a drama student so everyone here are a little special and i have so much anxiety

this was probably very boring im sorry