My Childhood friend hasn't contacted me sincemoving back

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Okay. Here's the deal: One of my friends who I've known all my life has been living in Japan for the last 6 years. Three weeks ago, he moved back. I was expecting him to contact me at least once. After all. he's living in the same town as me and I live in a really small town!
What disturbs me more is that there is a guy who is in our circle of friends that have also known eachother since childhood that I got in a viscous fight with a few months ago. So when I recently checked my friend's facebook page, he had posted a pic of a coming back party and geuss who was there? The guy I had the fight with.My blood was boiling!I was thinking of messaging him on facebook, but it seems like he should have contacted me since he never even formerly told me when he was coming back!Also, he ahas always contacted me when he visited in the past! This simply leads me to believe that he wants nothing to do with me, possibly due to some crap my ex friend said about me!
God, I'm beginning to sound like a teenaged girl, but I can't help it! This is driving me nuts!

Why not contact him?

Yeah I agree. You need to contact him by calling him and sending him one message voice or text and ask if you did something that he did not like. Then what you want to do is give them some sort of a grace period to get back with you. If he does not I would write him a letter after the grace period and tell him how you feel and that you understand if he is not interested.

I recently did some with someone who was supposedly my friend when she started ignoring me. While I tried not to chase her down there was the three day grace period. When that was over I managed to send her an e-mail and ask what was going on. She wrote back and said that we were suddenly not compatible for each other.

Okay. So I sent him a message on fb. It was kind of smarty pants though. I basically asked him where in california he was living ( his post simply said he in his family were in CA). I then went on to say that the landmarks in the photos he posted looked very similar to landmarks in my town. Lol. This may make me sound like a jerk, but he has already made himself look like one in my eyes. Afterall, I haven't even seen him for a couple if years. He even asked me if I knew of anyrooms were available near where i live just a couple of minths ago! So I just can't see how I could have possibly done anything to offend him! We haven't even had a conversation fir crying out loud!

I had gotten a call from a guy who I am just casual friends with who had a crush on me in the beginning when we first started hanging out.

He managed to call me tonight and ask how I am doing and then he went on to say that a dating service set him up with another girl. He then said that they were going to a congregation on Friday that they both know well and then go to dinner.

I was so annoyed and a little upset that he did that and ended up cutting the conversation short by saying that I had to go. He said "I will have to ask you the question another time then."

I just want to know did I do the right thing or how could I have handled things?

I do not have any feelings with this person. I am going through something else right now where I was rejected by someone who I thought was my friend when she really was not. In fact, she was so toxic that she left a lot of damage by saying or doing things that made me angry.

So that is why I am a little more sensitive.

Lol he is on the spectrum too. So maybe he did not pick up the cues at all.