Be Less Emotional and More Serious

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This is the advice I was given from my NT boyfriend after finishing a business class the other night. I felt like I had already begun on the wrong foot after a potential friend opted to sit on the bus for 10 minutes than talk with me. Later in the evening, I began replaying the event with my boyfriend trying to figure out what I might have done to scare her off. His suggestion was that I might have come off too intense in my emotions (highs too high, lows too low) and to just remain neutral/balanced/unemotional. In addition, not many people might get my humour, so perhaps just remain serious in the beginning.

This advice sounds like stereotypical Asperger traits, which took me years to break down. Now it sounds like people prefer me to be more Aspie again.

I'll bet anything that he didn't really mean unemotional and serious. He's probably talking about the generic, not-necessarily-genuine cheerfulness people expect during small talk with people they don't know well.